2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
About psychological education, upbringing and, in general, the ability to live, so to speak.
Recently, a question was received from a subscriber, which sounded like this: "boys, for example, choose girls with a" fire of fire "character and try to make her submissive all their lives! all "- you have to get married, so as not to be a black sheep in a herd of whites) and then tries to put his ideas" about her husband "to her husband! Tell us about it, why is this happening?"
It's more about the way of choosing a partner. About how a person does it and why, with what expectations he enters into a relationship. And then what about disappointment? Let's take a closer look.
The question of choosing a partner and building relationships is only one of the pieces of life. And this piece becomes not very tasty if our emotional intelligence is poorly developed. Sounds strange, clever and not interesting. But in fact it turns out that this thing determines our whole life! Petranovskaya wrote about this, that you can be an excellent student and fall into depression - and what will knowledge give? Nothing. You can be successful in different areas, know languages, but at the same time suffer from toxic shame, without even realizing it - and then all the doors to the future are closed to you, by your shame.
Psychotherapy helps to develop emotional intelligence, step by step. Making every piece of life tastier)
There is such a club - the Mensa Club. It includes the smartest people on the planet! These are people with very high IQ scores. And what do you think, there are only businessmen and millionaires? They are there, but there are even unemployed people there! There are people of completely different professions there. Knowledge by itself does not provide an opportunity to be successful, happy, and so on.
Emotional intelligence is about identifying, using, understanding, and managing emotions. And in fact, skillful management and handling of your own life. This is what is really important to learn yourself and teach your children.
Think about which partners do you usually choose?
What do you react to when choosing? What should be in a person to attract you?
How do you understand that you like a person, cause sympathy, or are you in love, or feel tenderness, or passion? Do you recognize many shades of emotion, and how do you rely on it?
Do you distinguish between what is happening to you around different people - are you anxious or agitated?
What tasks do you choose a partner for?
Do you feel the alarm bells "this person does not suit me" or "life with him / her will seem like hell" - at the very beginning, somewhere in the background of consciousness?
How do you cope with disappointment? Is frustration the end of a relationship?
Well, there are many, many other things, many questions and nuances arise during consultations.
Increasing awareness, sensitivity - improves the quality of your life))
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