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We work with the client for the second session. The first is described here:
And in the course of the discussion, we come to the conclusion: the trigger of her current state was one event - a reminder of the dad who abandoned her, who, leaving his own daughter, raises someone else's child all his life - the girl of the next wife, for whom he continues to be responsible, while he seems to be his own blood would "not see", "do not know", otherwise it would not recognize …
We reflect on the following: how to close the dependence of an adult girl on her father's choice - to "forget" her child - not to participate in her life - "not to see", NOT TO RECOGNIZE?
And during the session, we carry out the following work …
The practice of "Returning a fundamental, important right - to recognition, to happiness, to life."
1. The work is carried out in the format of the well-known gestalt strategy - "Technique of two chairs". To do this, we set two positions (two chairs) - Papin and Dochkin - opposite each other - face to face.
2. The client takes her own position and, with the help of a psychologist, turns to her father with approximately the following text …
Dear Father, the time has come to tell you: I am closing my addiction! From what? From the fact of your indifference! I am not in your history, in your life! It hurts, but I won't suffer anymore! Today, that is, at this moment, I take away your paternal right to recognize your daughter. And having taken this right for myself, I admit myself - loudly, solemnly: I AM (do you hear, dad?), I AM and HOW BEAUTIFUL, WHAT I AM and HOW WONDERFUL, THAT I AM, WHAT I AM! Now I will be and will be - regardless of your attitude! AND I WILL BE HAPPY! I GIVE MYSELF THIS RIGHT!
3. We listen to inner feelings: what feelings are filled with a person who has given himself such a valuable right? We fix the sensations.
4. We take the next position (second chair), try on the role of the father, answer the daughter with whatever comes to mind, with an orientation towards the following vector: LET THE CHILD RELEASE IN YOUR OWN, leveling the negative "anchors". We got the following …
Dear Daughter, you take this right by right! May this value restore your harmony! I'm completely letting you go!
5. We listen to the feelings of the father: what fills him? Feel a pity, as in the first session, belittling the subjects of the essentially non-happened relationship. Letting go of the feeling of weakness … We return to our chair.
6. We take our position, listen to feelings: do we want recognition from this person, are we still dependent on the father's choice, have we separated enough into our own? In our case, there was a feeling of independence, integrity, order.
7. Saying goodbye to my father (closing his position), returning to the client's chair.
8. Once again, I clarify the client's condition: she is fine, feels confident and calm, notes the feeling of pleasant separation from her dad who left her long ago.
Hope this gestalt is closed
Based on the example given here and work with the client case, the reader can (in unity with his therapist) reclaim the "left" somewhere rightsby empowering yourself with power over your own capabilities, roads and the quality of your life.
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