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… Olga remembers that in the course of the development of relations she tried to somehow align them, but everything was unsuccessful: Vadim (the girl's beloved) seemed to be deliberately pushing fragile relationships into the icy dimension in every possible way - cold (the kingdom of quarrels, rejection, rejection, disagreements), in order to immediately painfully achieve his beloved, and having achieved, he left again until he left Olga altogether … Parting for the girl was extremely, extremely difficult, she tried to commit suicide, but “having stood at a turning point in life,” nevertheless continued on her way into the future … Nevertheless, dreams about that period torment her to this day (although about 7 years have passed). Olga wants to heal her memory. Letting go of the pain of the past forever …
Working Constellation of Therapy Request. Placement of psychological trauma
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1. Position # 1. Position of trauma of the past
Olga is designated as "the trauma of her past." She becomes in her position, identifying with this particular role.
Role position monologue
“I am a trauma of Olga's past. A bleeding wound in her soul. It is as if some steel ring (or maybe a fish hook) is threaded through me, and when you move it, the wound begins to bleed endlessly. The only way to heal this wound is to get rid of the foreign body, to remove the steel hook."
2. Position # 2. The source of the specific injury
Olga is designated as "the root source of her trauma." Comes to the designated position. Identified with a specific role.
Role position monologue
“I am the source of Olya's trauma, which goes back to childhood with horses. I have triggered a specific relationship based on the driver program. Olya's parents were very unhappy. Their passion boiled down to a showdown, noisy, difficult quarrels. The primary model from Olya's childhood became the soil of a love relationship with Vadim. The program must be fully worked out, comprehended by the participant, lived through, in this case she will let the unfortunate go …"
3. Position number 3. An alternative option for continuing a toxic relationship with Vadim. Possible perspective of the driving program
Olga is appointed "a version of her future based on the possible continuation of a toxic relationship with Vadim." It is important to understand where such a relationship could lead the heroine? Olya takes the position of a new role. Identified with assignment, immersed in the role.
Role position monologue
“I am a variant of an alternative future for Olga if relations with Vadim continue. I look understandable for Olga - she has a similar example of a friend in front of her eyes. A girl in a similar position, like a "wounded bird", for many years she is dependent on the mercy of the abuser partner - in fact serves as his energy battery: the heroine does not have the strength for her development, study, constructive realization - she is a consumable for the abuser, quickly and worked out to the end … A sad sight. Olga would have had the same …"
4. Position number 4. A different version of the development of Olga's story in the event of parting with the first difficult partner
Olga is appointed "a version of her future in the event of an interruption of toxic relations with Vadim." The client is identified with the assigned role, enters (comprehends) it …
Role position monologue
“This future is in a completely different space. In a dimension similar to the current protagonist. Olga is studying at the capital's university. It develops and grows. Next to the girl is a person who respects her. He is present in her present. Olya is happy, in demand, and valuable. The relationship with a partner is respectful and very promising. The roads of the future are open. Borders are inspirational. The members are happy and contented … Surprisingly, without the first relationship experience, the current platform is closed. This future was opened for Olya only by comprehending the previous experience of the relationship."
5. Position number 5. Constructive implications of the trauma admitted in the history. The spiritual part of the circumstances
Olga is appointed as a spiritual and philosophical mix of her own experience of the past - the Angel of the past history. To clarify the provisions. Olya identifies with this positional role. And plunges into a new appointment …
Role position monologue
“I am the spiritual part of the trauma allowed in history. I came to the constellation to reveal to Oly the following: I did not happen by chance, but exclusively for the benefit of a particular girl. I personally showed her the scheme of toxic relationships in a specific love couple - a failed union launched by Olya's childhood - an alliance with a direction to "nowhere" … I am an invaluable experience of a specific girl, creating (by comprehending it) new paths for further …
6. Position No. 6. Return to the starting point. To the traumatized part of the past. Clarification of states
Olga returns to her original position again. Listens to himself. Responds from this position….
Appointment monologue
“I am the trauma of the past heroine. Plunging into myself now, I am surprised to notice that the wound no longer hurts - the steel ring-hook seems to be gone, there is only a faint trace of his former presence … The last thing that would be important to find out: why did Vadim leave Olga? If an answer to my question is found, I will leave the heroine altogether …"
7. Position No. 7. Vadim's position from the past. Clarification of the situation
Olya is appointed by Vadim from the point of the “past”, a person who abandoned her without any intelligible explanation … The heroine is identified with the assigned, new role. Immerses himself in this image. And gives feedback …
Role position monologue
“I am Vadim from Olga's past. Recently, I dumped a girl. Why ?! … First of all, I'm very scared … Olya drags me to the unknown distance and I'm unlikely to survive there … This is incomprehensible, unfamiliar, unknown love for me … I don't know such an attitude, I'm afraid of it, I'm afraid … And also - Lord how ashamed I am! Olya suffers, I know … I am forcing her … If you turn inward - there is a huge, universal shame, cosmic guilt and inability to cope with it … Olya asks for forgiveness, tries to figure it out. I am not able to answer at this level, something really interferes … This is not mine - period! You see, I'm in a mask, so I'm more used to it: to be a winner, a seducer, a leader. Taking off my mask, I will find something deep, voluminous and empty … And then - pain … I do not want to go there … Leave me! Leave !!!"
8. Provision No. 8. Final, last. Position of trauma of the past. The protagonist's response
Olya is again assigned to the role of her injury. In this case - for the last, working time. He gets used to it, exploring his condition.
Role position monologue
“It was important for me to clarify the motives of that Vadim. And I seem to have understood them … There was a feeling of pity for that person. Do you know what you want? Take the hands of "little" Vadim from my "mother's" skirt and put another, adequate, male support into them. I'm trying to do it … Oh-oh-oh, I did it. Vadim will get another core and finally pulled away from my past. Now we are not connected … Oh-oh-oh, well, wow, there is no steel ring, not a trace left, not even a shadow - everything is a thing of the past … The operation to remove the foreign body has been successfully completed … The wound only needs to be healed … But this is for her under the force. A short time question. After all, there is nothing more to tear it … I will recover, recover, wake up …"
Olga left the session with an understanding of the value of past events and acceptance of the history of past years. Her problem was transformed into a useful, meaningful experience. The burden of the past is no longer oppressive. The trauma releases the client.
The placement of the trauma helped the client to explore her request, to realize the facets of her story unknown before such work, to let go of severe pain - to heal and calm down.
I invite everyone to participate in such arrangements. By connecting our intuition and knowledge of a specific strategy, we can figure out almost any situation.
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