Masochism

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I myself do not notice how I like to complicate things and go the way that is most difficult. I choose the most difficult scenarios for the development of events, and even where everything is known and understood, I create additional obstacles to obtain a more complete picture of suffering, because without suffering and effort it is impossible to achieve anything. I thought so.

Why is it so difficult to achieve the set goal and come to it not completely exhausted and who have lost all interest in the goal itself from exhaustion. Apparently because the owner of the process himself wants it. Why does he want this? And here, we are faced with a very common concept like masochism, which lives and thrives in many of its guises and can be recognized both in the open and in the hidden.

Why do I need masochism (suffering) and why do I not actually voluntarily give up on it and start living in peace. The answer can be extremely simple, because this is a real rule of life that grows out of an unmet deep need for me and my pain to be noticed, so that there is an opportunity to manipulate the feelings of guilt by loved ones, or to punish myself for the feeling of guilt or shame that lies in our depths of the subconscious. The reason can be different and in the same way the mechanisms can be different, but the suffering and violence against oneself remain equally real.

An attempt to make a mausoleum of labor and achievements out of one's life is achievable during life, and there are people who choose this path, a path in which it is impossible to notice their labor when there are no bloody calluses on their hands and when the whole body does not ache from tension. First of all, notice yourself in this process and pay attention to your feelings and manifestations of these feelings. With this comes a hitch, in view of the fact that sensory experience in masochism is processed into an unrestrained compulsive desire to achieve pain and suffering in any of the possible ways: physical stress, moral humiliation, weakness and despondency, sadness and grief without a real reason, the desire to be humiliated and insulted … By feeling these painful and bitter emotions, the masochist receives a long-awaited confirmation of his importance to others, his own identification with this pain, and as a result, the ability to be alive and accepted even in such a destructive way.

And I personally do not care how a person achieves his sense of self, I recognize any method, and I am sure that all these manifestations of oneself are our life, the one we live in, and in which we are happy. It may be strange, but masochism leads not only to suffering and some kind of visible oppression, it leads to feelings, and to life, and to self-realization, and to, albeit temporary, but deliverance from pain.

Like is treated like, and here masochism describes its essence as clearly as possible, where deep mental pain is treated with visible pain, and in fact, bearable and bearable. It’s like stimulating one part of the nerves to suppress the activity of another, it’s just a way to get away from more grief by covering up with less. Of the two evils, as you know, choose the lesser.

The triviality of masochism and its rejection by our society, and the real misunderstanding and unconsciousness of all that this phenomenon is, gives rise to a lot of gossip and far-fetched. Akin to dissent, masochists methodically realize their potential under the guise of caring for others, workaholism, perfectionism, pursuit of the unattainable, and just fashion. It is scary to admit to yourself and others that you are a masochist and why you suffer from this, why you are so involved in suffering, and why you need all this. It's embarrassing and scary. The days of romanticizing masochism, sung and popularized by writers, have passed, now there are other roles on the stage, sadism, a friend and inspirer of masochism takes the first roles in the best productions.

Masochism generates anxiety and tension, which masks the inner desire to be heard, it is anesthesia to the impossibility of receiving help in the form in which the world offers it, and help itself is not the meaning of the whole action. The masochist demonstrates that it is hard and tense for him and this does not at all mean that he wants help, he just wants to be heard and understood by the object to which all his unconscious attention is directed, and this is sometimes as unrealistic as the very process of receiving this attention, more precisely, accepting it in the form in which it comes.

As a representative of this movement, it is important for me to understand for myself what exactly drives me in my endless search for the severity of this life, and the presence of an attentive person in this case is very important. A person with whom it is not scary or disgusting to be a masochist, and who will not rush to solve your problems on the fly and try to make you a winner. Everything step by step.

Acceptance, awareness, exit.