2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Anthropologists say that anger is common to everyone. That is, representatives of all nations and peoples around the world fall into anger. What is anger and where does it come from?
Anger is an intense feeling or experience associated with feelings of discontent and, usually, hostility, and is caused by resentment and pain. In anger, not only emotions are involved, but also the body, mind, will, and some specific event in a person's life provokes it.
The event is important here. We cannot take and say: "in five minutes I will be angry." The event causes despair, irritation, pain, hopelessness, disappointment, feelings of rejection, confusion, etc. Anger is a reaction to all of this. We often refer to all of these emotions as anger.
As a rule, anger makes us feel dislike for that person, for the place, and for the things that caused it. Love draws us to a person, anger repels us.
When we feel anger, our brain works, which long before that began to produce different thoughts, as well as our body, producing adrenaline. Hormones stimulate the heartbeat, increase blood pressure, activate lung function and digestive tract function, which further leads to a general state of excitement and tension that engulfs people falling into anger. It is these physical changes that cause the feeling that anger takes over the person so much that he is unable to cope with it. That is, the state of anger that we end up experiencing can be subject to 3 components: emotions, thoughts and physical changes in the body. Further, anger affects what we say and do.
It is important to clarify that we really do not know how to control our emotions and the physical reaction of the body to disturbing events, but we can learn to control our thoughts, the way we interpret and perceive the events that are taking place.
Anger always arises when we feel that we are being treated the wrong way. As a reaction to injustice, anger manifests itself in all its emotional, physiological and intellectual fullness.
Why do we resent the behavior of others? Because we feel that they are not behaving correctly towards us. This is not done in relation to a friend, lover, daughter (depending on the role that we play in a particular situation). Why do we drop things when they don't work? Because we believe they are letting us down.
It is also important to understand that anger is not evil. It indicates our sense of injustice and our desire to achieve it. This is our pursuit of righteousness, honesty, nobility.
Why do we need anger?
Anger is given to a person in order to induce us to take active and constructive action in the face of everything that is unfair and wrong. However, our anger is not always directed at wrongdoing and crime. Since we are more guided by our own ego, we tend to feel resentment every time something does not go our way. When we see justice, anger should prompt us to take positive action based on love.
And there are many confirmations of this in history, when anger at injustice forced people to change systems, laws, seek rights, etc.
When we feel dissatisfied, anger is the red signal for attention. And we must think about further actions. Sometimes these actions can harm ourselves.
To be continued…
Based on materials from Henry Chapman's book "The Other Side of Love"
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