A Strange Friendship: About How Important It Is To "make Friends" With A Symptom Of The Disease

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A person, finding himself in a situation of detecting a disease, especially when it happens unexpectedly, is as if he is in shock and bewilderment

Hardly anyone will say: "Hurray, finally!".

Such information is perceived ambiguously and without joy. It is unlikely that someone will be able to accept this immediately, without denying and without anger.

This is a difficult path, and everyone follows it in their own way. Many people ask the questions "Why me?" and "What did I do wrong?" They will find thousands of answers to these questions, and maybe almost none, but everyone will choose one or several that are suitable for him. It is important for a person in such a situation to find at least some explanation, even if it is a denial of the obvious.

The choice is made, let's move on. We have a certain symptom, I do not specifically call it a disease, so as not to infect the topic with the effect of "I'm sick!" We have a symptom of some disease that we need to live with and do something about.

I am more interested in how to live with him as harmoniously as possible.

No matter how strange it may sound, it is important to "be friends" with him and accept.

Indeed, many of us, without denying the presence of a symptom, deny that we belong to it - according to the principle "it is, but it is not mine." So they exist, as two separate galaxies, in one organism.

And even coming to the doctor, the patient, let's say, "brings" the symptom, and does not come on its own. And in his soul and body, a person has a struggle with someone else's object. But in this case, this struggle itself more oppresses a person than the disease and its course.

As much as we would like to deny it, but the symptom is our part, and if it is now, it cannot be ignored. It is extremely important to meet and talk to her.

This can be done by methods that do not require special devices and skills, but for the most part involve the support of a psychologist who can direct the work in the right direction.

If you nevertheless decide to get acquainted with your symptom alone, then this is not a problem, the main thing is that you find the strength to go this way to the end, and if something does not work out, find the courage to seek qualified help.

So, let's begin.

You need to take an object or piece of paper that will characterize your symptom. You can even give it a name if you can

Then you need to place this object in space relative to you as you feel its presence in your life: far or near, behind or in front, right or left.

After you have placed him, try to talk to him, referring to him as a living being. Take your time and listen to your heart for what it wants to say to the symptom.

This appeal must necessarily contain phrases like: "I know that you are a part of me, that you came (came) for something." If you do not even know and do not understand at all what message your symptom carries, then also tell him about it: “I don’t know why you are to me, and I don’t want to suffer, but I accept you and your mission in my life”.

Share with him your pain and experiences to the extent that they exist in your life. And also let us know your wishes for further interaction: “I accept you now, I know about your mission in my life, but I want to go further and want you to leave (leave)”, or if these are inevitable health changes “I accept you, I remember about you, but please do not bother me to enjoy life and be happy (happy)."

After you have had a dialogue, it is important to find a place of gratitude, and this is a very difficult step. Most often, it can appear if the symptom gets an opportunity to respond to you. This greatly complicates the task, but makes working on yourself many times more effective.

Therefore, if you want and there is an opportunity, find an object or leaflet that will replace you for a while, and stand in the place of the symptom. Try to listen to yourself and see this person opposite, who is on the difficult path of healing and forgiveness. Try to convey the feelings that you have at the place of the symptom.

But I warn you that this part must be done under the supervision of a specialist so as not to quarrel with the symptom even more and not to harm yourself.

Having done at least the first part, you will be able to “humanize” the symptom and thereby “humanize” that part of yourself without freezing or blocking it. Thus becoming calmer, wiser and healthier. And no matter how later health events develop, it will be easier for you to be yourself in harmony with yourself.