2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Changes in life (method of Constellation)
Many are already familiar with such a short-term therapy method as Constellation, which came to us from Germany.
There are different directions in this method, I want to talk about the system-family constellation, describe some cases.
"Separation, release of an adult son." At work, the son tells his mother that he is already big and asks to let him go into his adult life. Mom seems to agree, but at the same time holds him by the palm. After the permissive phrases, the son is released into his adult life. Result: after the work done for the son in another city, events in the professional sphere begin to occur and change abruptly. They are fired from one place, and in another place, several options for work are offered at once at a level higher than the previous one in terms of prospects and earnings. The point is that the son of CAM, as an adult, has already made the decision to quit, and as an ADULT he was given a job at a higher level.
"Excluded" Child, nine years old, diagnosed with CRD and profound emotional disturbances. Mom decided to do the Constellation in order to understand whether there is something of a kind behind the child's symptom. The work showed that there is an excluded family member in the family, about whom everyone has forgotten. And only one child remembers him - through his symptom. The child "looks" at the excluded, but just as the child is "special", then other family members look in this direction, paying attention to the child, and involuntarily look towards the excluded in the generic system.
Interlacing. A client, a physician, on duty must sign the conclusions of diagnoses, and this was always not easy to do. The work showed that there was an intertwining with a distant ancestor who signed orders for the destruction of people at the behest of that time (execution, execution), while the deputy was very sick and ache in his right hand. The weave has been removed. The client said that after the work done, he signed the conclusions calmly.
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When Everything Changes For Sure
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I Want Changes
Are you dissatisfied with your relationship with your partner, with others, with your parents? Do you want to change this relationship? Please! AND first of all, start with yourself . Everything that happens to us in the outer world, in relations with others, is a reflection of us and our inner world.
Changes During Therapy
In the end, any successful therapy ends up in the same way: the client changes. Of course, these are not those magical changes pleasing to the eye, when at the end of therapy your personal unicorn appears in the home stall, and during morning coffee the birds start singing in unison in the trees.
How To Open Up The Strength And Sources For Positive Changes In Your Life
The path to discovering the strength and sources of positive change in yourself is through suffering. As long as we run away from suffering and do not have the strength and courage to look at the root of all our problems and sufferings, until then our life will be like a struggle with windmills, which does not radically change and does not bring joy and positiveness.
WHERE TO LOOK FOR SUPPORT DURING LIFE CHANGES?
How to support yourself when life is no longer stable? Life is interesting because it is constantly changing. Even if you have been married for 20 years, have been working in the same place for 30 years and, in general, are a person of traditional foundations and views, your life still changes.
