WHERE TO LOOK FOR SUPPORT DURING LIFE CHANGES?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How to support yourself when life is no longer stable?

Life is interesting because it is constantly changing. Even if you have been married for 20 years, have been working in the same place for 30 years and, in general, are a person of traditional foundations and views, your life still changes. Moreover, happy is the one who is constantly changing. It is impossible to live life without ever experiencing changes, just as it is impossible to remain a child for life. You will grow up. And sooner or later you will experience a crisis.

Where does the crisis come from?

This blog already has an article about what crises are and what they are for. In short, it is often impossible to understand where the crisis is growing from and where the core of the crisis is. It just happens and then it certainly does. It happens, at the most unexpected moment, it happens, it can be seen from afar. But, one way or another, the crisis is often associated with growth and changes that occur regardless of whether you are ready for them, or not.

Life doesn't ask. Life doesn't happen. You are living your life, but the main question is how much you experience it.

How much do you stay alive when things change?

And from this point begins what you rely on when something happens. To what or to whom? When? Who is important?

If you decide to change jobs, who can help you cope with the “change of scenery”?

If you are changing your personal life, who helps you to part with the past and start the present?

If you have a child, who helps you get used to your new status and routine?

Always, every day, there is something or someone on whom we rely.

But it often happens that there is no one to rely on

What if your wife is against you changing jobs, as this threatens with instability in your life?

What if you can't part with the past, and the whole environment insists that you stay in it?

How to behave when there is absolutely no one to help you with the child?

What to do when you are alone with your desires, plans, crisis and changes?

When changes happen or are coming, when a person seems to grow out of himself, when the moment comes to change his principles and open his own life from other facets, it often happens that the close environment is not ready for this. And those from whom you expect support cannot give it to you, and often hinder change.

All life happens in. Crises are experienced in contact. All feelings arise in contact with other people. Contact is a sacred condition of our life and what helps to survive the crisis. But what to do when contact with loved ones is impossible?

Rely on a therapist

If you are afraid, if you are in a crisis, if you want to change something in life and there is no one to turn to with this inner baggage, the therapist can become the person you can rely on. Many people turn to therapists already at the stage of a severe crisis or against the background of problems that they cannot solve. But you can turn to a therapist just when there is no crisis yet, but you want changes.

Are there any other options?

Yes, there is. This is your inner desire for change. Your passion, energy and motivation for this change. If you are passionate about something and you are not stopped by the fact that loved ones may not want it, you can rely on yourself. This energy that drives you to change. And it is difficult, and it is scary, and there are many obstacles along the way, but if you can no longer live as before, it becomes such a force that cannot be stopped. And is it really necessary?

We are happy when we change!