2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Thinking about our life, few of us can boast of a perfectly smooth road.
There are simply troubles and failures, there are serious failures, but there are also such breaks in fate, when life is divided into "before" and "after".
These can be irreparable losses, severe traumas (both mental and physical), difficult diagnoses..
Each of us has his own path, but one way or another, any person can find himself on one side or this side of the disaster that has happened. As a victim, a loved one or a relative.
This test for all participants in the drama often forces people to reconsider their attitude towards each other, to evaluate and reevaluate the importance of each other in their lives.
There is no ideally correct pattern of behavior in critical circumstances, everyone will choose their own option, but there are certain patterns in the perception of stereotyped forms of support.
Encouragement with the phrases "Hold on", "do not be sad", "everything will be fine", often produces not at all invigorating effect. This plunges the person into even greater anxiety and insecurity.
There is a feeling that anxiety, fear, pain are not something that can be experienced.
Basically, the calls not to be sad make it clear that your reality is simply being denied.
Anxiety, sadness, pain are natural companions of the happened trouble.
Empathy, in this case, is much more important than encouragement. Understanding the feelings of a person, accepting their presence, indeed, give the effect of support.
Close, caring people often feel their helplessness themselves, are ashamed of it and simply do not know what to say and how to behave.
Several psychological recommendations for those whose loved ones are in trouble:
1 . Do not fall on a person with too active moral support. This can undermine the fragile balance of internal forces that a person is trying to collect in himself.
2. Do not create a pretentious attitude, with emphasized sympathy
3. It is important to make it clear that all feelings and desires (to move away, for example, for a while) are correctly understood and accepted
4. It is worth focusing on the issues of today, in a foreseeable and understandable period of time
5. Be natural. Bring life with you, radiate it if possible
6. Learn to cope with the lack of omnipotence and the impossibility of complete control
7. Find a comfortable distance between you that makes it easier to cope
Be careful enough not to miss the moment when it needs to be reduced or increased
8. Understand that any test is a part of life. Live her
Instead of the typical "I know for sure that everything will be fine", it is worth focusing on the necessary efforts and the willingness to commit them "We will do our best for the best result.
Relying on action is easier than relying on dreams and hopes.
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