2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
THE RIGHT TO CHILD
Serious uncles and aunts have learned from childhood exactly what they should be.
Not entitled to error.
Should know everything.
Constantly be on top, be in shape.
Be support and support for those around you.
Please.
Be comfortable.
Putting your needs second.
And even not to know about them at all, to ignore …
This adaptation was a lifesaver for them.
When you had to "take care" of your parents, deserve love, be content with criticism and comparisons as stroking …
"Adult child" - talked about them with admiration.
Smart, reasonable, responsible …
And childlike naturalness became unnecessary.
Children's need for warmth, closeness, the manifestation of emotions (fear, anger, stubbornness) were rejected and were uncomfortable.
Surely there were reasons for this.
And it was justified.
But, everyone has the right to childhood.
The reality is, indeed, "if you didn't have a bicycle in childhood, don't buy them at least as an adult, in childhood, anyway, you won't have a bicycle."
But, each of us has the right:
• admit that he needs warmth, support, love;
• show "non-adult" qualities, regain spontaneity;
• will meet with your real feelings (anger, sadness);
• being sincere - "giving up what they should have become in order to be who they really are."
• admit the possibility of being vulnerable and the ability to accept oneself at some point in need and dependence.
It is important to allow yourself the courage to be imperfect and not always be "grown-up" ala.
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