2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why are we so used to reproaching ourselves for mistakes? Why do we generally consider a lot of things to be a mistake, because, often, when we did something, we believed that we were doing the right thing. Why is the mistake mostly interpreted in a negative way, as something bad and not allowed?
Or maybe you should try to look at her from a different angle. Expand your horizons, open your eyes, that a mistake, sometimes it's luck, but distant in time. Accept yourself with a mistake, and give yourself the right to make it. When we were children, we could easily make mistakes, because we only knew this world. When we are adults, we still cognize this world, cognize ourselves, cognize others.
How to accept yourself with a mistake?
Realize that mistakes simply do not exist
All there is is our experience
We cannot know for sure what will be a mistake and what will not. We simply do not have such knowledge. We do not know whether the decision to divorce will be a mistake until we go through it, moving, until we move, stopping communication with someone or parting, changing profession and place of work … Until we go through this experience, we will not know what it is for us will become. In essence, it will become just an experience.
We just got used to it, we were taught to divide everything into good and bad. It's just a habit. Everything in this World has a neutral nature, and only the person himself ascribes feelings, emotions, pluses and minuses to events and actions, his own and those of others. Moreover, we do this because we simply cannot do otherwise, we were taught this way in childhood.
The moment we do something, we are convinced that it is right or necessary or not otherwise
So, we don't really consider this a mistake. This is what we considered to be true in the given conditions, circumstances, based on our condition.
Each person, committing an act one way or another, at the subconscious level considers it correct, since he does not act otherwise. It is at the level of consciousness that we can think that we are doing the wrong thing, but to do so.
Give up shortcuts
So that we do not do, no matter how we act, do not hang the label on yourself: I am bad, I am evil, I am worthless, now I do not deserve anything good.
What you have done, you could have done for a number of reasons that you may not know, but this does not mean that now you are such and such. Our subconscious mind very competently hides from us the motives of our actions in fact.
Analyze the error
What did she teach me?
What do I know now?
What's best for me now?
And in a year, what will I think about what happened?
And what valuable experience for myself can I take from what happened?
Make everything a positive experience
Have tried yourself in a new one, but realized that this is not yours - good. And how would you know what is not yours, if you had not tried, but continued to rush. My husband left, yes, it happens, now I can meet new love, learn independence, become stronger, etc. etc.
Concentrate on the moment now
What can I do now? Accept the point that what happened has already happened, and focus on what I can now, or what I want. Try to fix it, accept everything as it is, change your attitude towards it.
Errors just don't exist. We cannot know, perhaps after a while we will be grateful to ourselves that we once made this decision, refused someone, abandoned something, parted with someone or something …
Accept your whole life as a journey, an adventure, yes, sometimes with obstacles, but sometimes very interesting
Admitting your right to be wrong is like admitting your right to life. Only the dead are not mistaken
And how can we learn something if we do not try, perform actions and deeds, the result of which we cannot know for sure.
Life is the way.
Mistakes are experience.
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