2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
- I dreamed of a family for many years! But for various reasons it didn't work! In the end, my dream died. My life is not bad, there are many good moments: meetings with friends, good deeds, there are hobbies! But without this dream I died, for a year now, with a normal life, I am dead inside!
- You put everything on your dream, more precisely yourself, reduced the meaning of your life to one desire - a family, "I'm dead without it." However, we breathe, communicate, act, wake up every morning in a peaceful space - and this already makes a lot of sense.
The family, as the essence of being, appears to us in childhood. It is there that she is equated to life, without her for a child everything fades and meaning is lost. But an adult is able to survive quite efficiently outside the family (this does not mean that it is not important).
I would have looked at the original source, figured out what you did not receive in childhood, why is your inner “I” still there? It can be some kind of unmet need for love and care, or unseparatedness, when some part of you continues to live in merging with the basic figures.
If we look at the life of an adult, then it consists of different spheres, and they are all valuable: family, favorite business, creativity, finances, etc. But none of these spheres and all of them taken together can not be more important in meaning than life itself. If a person lacks something at the moment, this does not take away the meaning of life from him. He continues to enjoy her.
When we are too fixated on something “without this, nothing is cute”, we fall into the trap of idealizing “this is the only way I am ready to accept life” and then it will “teach” us, not giving what we so intensely and intensely want.
It is easier for the desired one to come when we are relaxed and in agreement (resignation) with what is happening, in gratitude to everything that is, while not stopping to act, work, be flexible and strive for the important without despair, disappointment, categoricalness, realizing, that the main thing we have is the opportunity to live every beautiful moment, to change something, improve, grow, and simply enjoy life without any other meaning except her. By the way, a good cartoon on this topic is now being shown in cinemas - "Soul", I recommend watching.
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