2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Flight codenamed "Success"
If you have conceived something, but do not implement it.
If you are already one step away from the long-awaited result, but suddenly start to sabotage the process.
If you want more and feel that your resources and potential will be enough for this, but you sit quietly like a gray mouse.. afraid to go out, and think that it’s safer.
If you have precisely defined the desire, goals and drew a plan, but the weather constantly bothers you, then the holidays, then the illness, then the country, then the strange neighbors.
Then hello you may have Fear of Success!
It would seem, what kind of fear is this? And how can people be afraid of Success? Even funny.
In percentage terms, in my work as a psychotherapist, "fear of success" prevails over "fear of failure." With the latter, everything seems to be clear. Fear of being wrong, low self-esteem, etc. But the fear of Success leaves many in confusion, and even more so in a lack of understanding of what to do with it.
Fasten your seat belts and start preparing for the flight with the codename "SUCCESS".
Who is the client:
1 … At first glance, it seems that only insecure and unfulfilled people are susceptible to this. But no. As a rule, this fear is characteristic of those people who have already come to terms with their position or achieved certain goals, but deep down they want more, but take on new responsibility and overcome new difficulties, stresses, make additional efforts and hold the won positions of being AFRAID.
It's like in that cartoon about the wolf and the dog "SHO AGAIN?" So this inner contradiction does not allow to take off or breathe deeply.
2. The client of this fear may be afraid that, after success, too high hopes will be placed on him and he will have to justify them, but will not be able to cope.
3. It seems that this fear is the opposite of the fear of failure, but it can be based on a feeling of self-doubt, in one's abilities, in one's competence. The client does not value his achievements and is organically afraid that the horrifying truth is about to be revealed that he is a "loser" and is not who society represents him.
4. This is an ambitious client with a psyche who loves stability and definitely does not like change. And again the contradictions, so to speak, "on the face". Such a fear of getting out of the usual comfort zone, the usual way of life and "losing stability."
If you saw yourself in at least one of the points, I have a magic hint for you.
Reflect on the concepts and words that I underlined with MARKER above. There, perhaps, your problematic and your path to answers are hidden.
For example, you realized that you don't value yourself and your accomplishments. Then feel free to take a piece of paper and a pen.. and write, write down your achievements, talents, resources that you have. Do it boldly and courageously.
If you saw yourself in point 1, then think about what "responsibility" is for you and how you have overcome your "stress" before. It may turn out that everything is not so scary.
Point 4 echoed in your mind! Then imagine that you have overcome fear, have not abandoned your dream, achieved, achieved. Where would you be now? How would you feel now?
We fly further..
Installations:
These are those inner, unconscious programs that can block you on the path to success. As a rule, they all come from childhood.
I cannot list them all, but I will open a part:
- If I am successful, they will envy me. Is that bad.
-big money will make me inhuman and shameless.
-It is better to sit quietly and not stick out.
-the rich also cry.
- in order to gain something, you have to lose something.
-Poverty is not a vice.
- I didn’t deserve … I don’t deserve.
- there must be harmony. If I am successful in my profession, I will not be happy in my personal life. And vice versa.
You see only some internal processes that can clip wings and prevent them from flying up and getting what you want and want.
Of course, Success in this case is seen by a person as dangerous, and he begins to avoid it, dooming himself to dull vegetation and dying of his inner potential.
But where there is a question, there is always an answer. Children's installations can be altered, worked out and made your allies. And here, it is advisable to turn to a psychotherapist to overcome these subconscious walls on the way to your heights.
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