Competition In The Profession And In Other Spheres Of Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Probably in this world, in this society, it is difficult to survive without competing with others for resources and scarcity. The only question is what forms of competition we choose. Competition is partly about jealousy as a way of comparing oneself to others and discovering differences.

And then the question that each of us can ask ourselves: "How do I deal with those differences from the other that I constantly discover"? A very subtle moment of choice arises here. "If I am losing in the competition or it seems to me that I am losing, what next steps do I take?"

Often times, the constant "inner" failure is the result of narcissistic trauma and the habitual insecurity that you are good enough. Then you need to constantly prove to the world and to yourself that you are good or even the best. What actions you take at this point already depends on your choice.

I often see psychologists competing here and in various other psychological communities. In general, the same as non-psychologists: someone admires and tries to unite with the one whom he envies (in this case, we are talking about constructive envy, leading to cooperation and stimulating development), while others attack and devalue, argue aggressively. devaluing - the so-called "black competition" (toxic envy). For some reason, the second category of people makes a choice in this direction.

I have always been interested in the question: how does a person make such a choice? After all, as a rule, such elections lead to the winding of an increasing intensity of anger and tension in the field around a person. After all, when you notice an article that you want to smash to smithereens, do you realize what you are doing? Why are you wasting your energy on this? To whom and what are you proving? And why exactly did this article hook you so much? And what? Actually, when you devalue the article and the author of the article in the comments, you thereby show your attention to the topic and to the author and thereby, investing your energy, give a high score to the article and the author. After all, we live in a dual polar world. In your contempt, there is a second polarity.

Aggressive competition is a waste of strength and energy, a form of destruction in relations with the world. And this is black envy. If you like someone's articles, publications or work results, and you can understand this from the interest that you have, try to see what else you can do so that yours is just as good and cool. it worked out. If you don’t like someone or you don’t like his work, articles and positions seem strange and even uninteresting, you can pass by and not prove to your colleague that you are smarter, why would you prove that you are better? Why bother proving that you are better than anyone? After all, in fact, when you prove that you are smarter, more stellar, more professional than someone, you abandon yourself and equate yourself to the standard you have chosen. Today you have one standard, and tomorrow another, third. But it is impossible to become a different person. You will find thousands who seem better to you. But instead of getting angry with them, try to learn what they do so well, and not look for "fleas" in their works and not cling to every comma.

As a matter of fact, competition in this context of understanding its essence is meaningless, I mean the very competition, which is like the struggle for a place in the sun, which people often unfold in the comments feed, proving themselves to the world and to someone else, maybe a potential client, that I am smarter than the one whom I devalue, criticize. In my opinion, competition in the form of devaluation, disputes, proving one's point of view, criticism, advice is a product of a deep deficit of personality resources. How do you compete? The question is rhetorical, you can just think it over and not advertise the answer.