2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Throughout my life, I have not seen a single family in which there would never have been conflicts.
Oh, no, I saw it! This is when it doesn't matter at all - people in such a marriage live their own lives and, almost never intersecting with each other, and then, after many years of such "joint" living, like "suddenly" get divorced.
In general, family and partner marriage relationships do not exist without periods of tension from time to time. Absolutely everyone goes through such periods.
And it is very important in this difficult time to keep track of the moment when the problem is only in the stage of formation and is just maturing.
If you succeed, then the decisions made during such a period can practically reduce the level of conflict to a minimum or completely avoid it.
And in order to see such moments, you don't have to be Sigmund Freud or a psychologist with twenty years of experience.
By turning on the usual observation and showing a little more attention to your other half than usual, you can see from his / her behavior what is really happening and what actions you need to take.
After all, the world in which you live, like a mirror reflects in essence yourself.
And if you feel good in your world, then everything is OK with you, but if you feel bad, then it's time to observe in both eyes.
Do you not like that your faithful one is always "biting" at you? Do you like yourself?
Or maybe you don't like that he doesn't give you anything. When did you do nice things to him yourself?
Do you not like that your husband, as in that joke about the fat spot, is lying all the time and does nothing? And why bother if you still do not appreciate his work or, on the contrary, bring everything to him on a "plate with a blue border"?
After setting in your relationship certain "rules of the game", you, thus, literally changed your partner for yourself. Otherwise you would not be together.
Your couple is a single integral organism, the parts of which complement each other. And the failure of the mechanism in one part, inevitably leads to malfunctions in the other.
And thus, summarizing all of the above, we can say in the words of the famous song of Viktor Tsoi - in any incomprehensible situation, “watch yourself, be careful”!
Letting things go in a relationship is the last thing.
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