2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What triggers a masochistic man?
A trigger is a specific stimulus that triggers automatic reactions, conditioned reflexes.
For example, when listening to the songs of Yuri Antonov, someone will remember their childhood.
To some, the smell of steamed cutlets will remind you of a kindergarten.
And for some, the noise of rain drops hitting the windshield of a car will remind you of the crackle of glass during an accident.
Triggers can cause both pleasant associations and states, and painful ones associated with mental trauma.
For a fetishist, one type of women's shoe can cause sexual arousal.
For a masochistic man, the trigger that triggers the experience of pleasure will be a relationship in which he is not considered, respected, and used.
The fixation on getting pleasure from humiliation is formed more often in early childhood, when violence and suffering are romanticized or sexualized by a person.
In the works of F. M. Dostoevsky, for example, such a character is often represented by the main character.
The Gambler is a very autobiographical novel. In it, between the general's stepdaughter Polina and her home teacher Alexei Ivanovich, there is a game of mistress and slave.
The teacher, overwhelmed by a passion for Polina, is ready to humiliate himself and even say goodbye to life at her request. Polina, on the other hand, scoffs at his feelings, and, using the voluntary derogatory behavior of Alexei Ivanovich, every now and then checks the seriousness of his intentions, whether he is really ready to go to great lengths for her.
Verbal and physical humiliation, lack of hope for reciprocity, submission - what "turns on" a masochist.
“… The thought that I am quite rightly and clearly aware of all her inaccessibility for me, all the impossibility of fulfilling my fantasies - this thought, I am sure, gives her extreme pleasure; otherwise, could she, cautious and intelligent, be with me in such shortness and frankness? It seems to me that she still looked at me like that ancient empress who began to undress in front of her slave, considering him not a man. Yes, many times she considered me not a person …”.
("The Gambler", Alexey Ivanovich about Pauline).
But the masochistic man remains only a toy in the hands of his tormentor, since she does not see authority in him, and he is valuable to her no more than his devotional service.
A masochist man understands this, and sooner or later hatred for his tormentor awakens in him, a desire to almost kill her. He feels humiliated, tormented by endless rejection, ridicule, whims, consumerism, betrayal, meanness, passion that does not find a way out.
The novel reflects the nature of the relationship between the writer himself and Polina Suslova during their stay in Wiesbaden.
Exhausted by his passion for Polina, Dostoevsky found solace in the game, eventually losing all his money.
Subsequently, he was forced to urgently pay off debts. This circumstance gave impetus to writing the novel "The Gambler" about how a man replaced his pathological passion for a woman with gambling, and what it all resulted in.
Addiction arises where the needs of a person do not find the proper response.
Finding no solace in love, the writer filled the gaping void with a pathological craving for play.
The game compensated him for the feeling of a winner's revenge, which was not the case in real life. In addition, excitement acted as anesthesia for mental pain:
"… from the very minute I touched the gambling table yesterday and began to rake in wads of money, my love seemed to recede into the background."
Passion for a woman turned into a passion for roulette.
Having done away with one bondage, the masochist man finds himself drawn into a slave relationship with his creditors.
The ups and downs of the writer himself end when he finds happiness in a stable relationship with Anna Snitkina, whom he met while writing the novel The Gambler. It is Anna who gives her lover the necessary admiration, acceptance and love.
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