2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
My last article on the topic, I ended with the phrase:
Even the most resistant metal can collapse under great pressure - so they are left alone …
Here I will consider modeling various events that occur at the peak of the unfolding of a life situation.
A long life with a person makes him dear. The experience gained in life together is very valuable, and further existence outside this family is not possible. You live, enjoy life with your husband or wife, you have wonderful children. And it seems that there is everything. Both sides are happy and enjoying each other …
But what if there is something that breaks a person from the inside? She takes care of children, supports the family, hiding a little secret about the emptiness that is spreading inside. Because a measured life with work, friends, cool parties or just a feeling of more freedom seems unattainable. Great responsibility for the family that was born, with which you have to live 24 hours a day, anxiety about the husband's delays at work and the destruction of old social ties.
After all, those friends are not interested in hearing about how my baby took the first step or turned over, very nicely demonstrated a smile, or how we did something together together.
Wine, which lay for a very long time and was banned during lactation, came into view.
One glass, no more
And now the anxiety is gone, those feelings that were attending dulled, and the mood became better. The next day, everything was repeated, and then again and again. As a result, it became permanent.
But if before only one glass was enough, now a bottle is “shortage” and a desire for more … And in the morning: “how hard it is, my head is just splitting”, in the kitchen I come across an unfinished glass from yesterday … a sip and again everything is in order …
Anxiety, suspicion, cornered, which gnawed the "hole" inside, began to increase under the influence of alcohol.
Scandals, accusations and fights - in a state of delirium, have become a frequent guest in the life of this family. In the morning, like a white sheet - I don't remember, I'm sorry … and again to the next circle.
Everything I described above related to unhealthy forgiveness, ignoring the problem on the part of the partner. Since often, people out of ignorance, inexperience, in the stage of breaking the partnership, feeling powerless - do nothing, believing that everything will pass. Of course, you have the right to object, because there are conversations, attempts to stop.
My practice of working with addicts has repeatedly demonstrated one fundamental problem - this is a conversation in the form of bargaining or an appeal to prudence. After which, after certain cycles of repetition of situations, the family simply disintegrated. A split came.
My recommendation is always the same, contacting a specialist for help in the right conversation with an addicted person. Do not delay until the explosion, the result of which is leaving.
I am sure this will not be an easy decision for you, and there will not be an easy way, where everything will be over at the click of a button.
You will have a long time of rehabilitation, support and temptations … Are you ready?
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