2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Alcohol has become a close companion in the lives of many people
Remember any holiday in the past few years, was there alcohol on it? Corporate party at work? Football on tv?
But what when these rare cases turn into everyday life, when a change in consciousness becomes a vital necessity? Then life is divided into only two segments: Sober with the search for money, booze and changed.
The causes of addictions have been described a huge number of times, from a lack of dopamine to a severe clinical picture in psychiatric terms.
I want to dedicate this text to people who have decided to walk the path to life without a substance that changes consciousness. About the complexity of a new life and about the temptations on the way. About how the family suffers from actions, helplessness and the inability to somehow influence.
When alcohol enters the “ necessary for life ”- this becomes a problem. But no, not for the drinker himself, but for the people around him or her. In one of the deeper stages of alcoholism, a person splits, a so-called toggle switch appears, which switches consciousness at a certain moment.
I think many people living with alcoholics have met this moment, which can be briefly described: “ She is very kind in life, but how she drinks … ”.
A person enters a delusional state, shows aggression, cries, tries to tell something, and this moment often turns out to be dangerous for others. In the morning, usually a person does not remember anything, and when he or she is told, they cannot believe in the perfect.
Before starting to work as a psychotherapist, I could never believe that such memory gaps exist. It seemed to me that this was an invention of the drinker himself, so as not to be held responsible for his actions. But I was wrong.
The first step to overcoming the problem during this period is to have a conversation. Yes, no matter how trite it sounds. But not just a “heart to heart” conversation, but one that will make a person think about values and the possibility of losing everything.
Often there are cases that in families, relatives endure for a long time, saying to themselves: “ I believe he will tie it up!" or " She promised that this would be the last time.“And the next breakdown brings disappointment, as it destroys our hope or the expectations placed on a person. This is often due to a lack of understanding of the depth of the problem. Many who are around an addicted person may feel helpless to do anything. They may be unable to understand why their loved one is unable to control their desire to drink, even after the consequences the addicts might have caused.
The first such breakdown is already a huge signal for the family, others should not let it go on the brakes. Indeed, often the words: “I will not drink anymore” are true only at that moment, the moment of shock and intoxication.
Even the most resistant metal can collapse under great pressure - so they are left alone …
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