He Came To Fuck You

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Once, a couple of weeks ago, I talked about aggression on local TV. And a lot was left behind the scenes, not meeting the time frame.

Interestingly, after this conversation, as well as after a series of articles about violence, several girls called me (the power of the Collective Unconscious is great!) And told me about their misadventures, kindly allowing me to interpret and explain their stories.

Girls, single, beautiful, young and mature, not familiar with each other, at the same time published their profiles on dating sites.

The girls are happy, one of them is a colleague, the other is a lawyer, the third is a doctor. All girls work in their specialty. They are between 25 and 44 years old.

And so, "the one" knocked on each of them. No, not the same. For each his own! But all three machos were united by one completely biologically determined desire to have sex.

One of them stretched the acquaintance in real life for a week, the other for a couple of days, and the third met the same evening.

All these girls faced the sexual aggression of men and, taking responsibility exclusively for themselves, beyond the norm, did not turn to the police for their seduction. My friends, we live in a world of double standards and unfair rules of the game. The fact is that these girls, despite their age, social achievements, of course, were and remain women who need affection, tenderness, care.

All three of these men essentially raped the girls, using cheap pick-up tricks about eternal love, loyalty and the desire to build a family.

Dear girls! If a man writes that he finally met YOU, Desirable and unique, on the very first evening and a few days after meeting, be prepared to be disappointed! Every man essentially forced a girl to have sex, finding her confused and viciously playing on trust and gentleness.

"It's like a badly edited movie. It comes. No soulful conversation, no desire to know about me, just flirting, flirting, sex play … But you can't resist … I find myself drawn into this game and only then I understand why I did not resist. He gave me noodles about what he loved, inspired me that I was valuable to him … and during the act I realized that he was just using me, as if he were using a rubber vagina. "

Again, the problem of idealizing oneself, denying the Shadow … again the desire to seem "soft and fluffy", because, of course, "this is the last chance!"

It is a problem of insecurity and a deserving, self-deprecating position.

These are fears arising from parent-child relationships with rejecting and cold parents who deprive children of their attention …

It is the Shadow that should play a decisive role in these cases. "If I am ready on the very first evening to have rough sex with an unfamiliar man whom I see for the first time, then the problem is not in him, but in my self-esteem," - the girl-lawyer expresses her opinion.

Why did I consider this topic in the context of aggression? The fact is that each of these girls experienced a fear of aggression. This is a typical alpha male behavior, when a man comes on a date not even as a conqueror, but as a winner, confident that the girl will please him. Behind this behavior is hidden or even quite obvious brutality, bombast and demonstration of their sexual energy. And it is this harsh, dominant, provocative form of male presentation that instills in the girl the fear of physical pain.

"He started pestering me in the car. I saw a stun gun. I realized that I will not resist."

"He came to me with absolutely empty hands. He pressed during the correspondence that he only wanted to see me, just talk, get to know me. I had, of course, suspicions of how it might end, but I believed him … we drank tea, he began to kiss me. I asked him to stop, I didn't want everything to be so fast, but he also accused me, said that I was so sexy that he could not restrain himself. And I got scared that if I said "No!", He would leave or hit me."

Of course, these men are gone. The girls were left with trauma, with pain, with a naked heart …

It's not about giving them love yourself! Love sex! or the blatant "Rejoice that the man has fucked!" (from a personal conversation with one psychologist I know, whose professional suitability I doubt). Such professional judgments and would-be advice are inhuman and have a devaluating effect.

As we can see, the problem of female sexuality is associated with a number of psycho-emotional characteristics. The fear of being abandoned, the fear of physical punishment and pain, and the fear of rejection make a girl vulnerable. The fear of showing her Shadow, her evil and aggressive essence, entails a deepening of psychotrauma and alienates the girl from self-defense and the formation of self-confidence.

The title of the publication was born spontaneously: what word can be inserted here? Devaluating and vulgar "fuck" or professionally supportive, stating "traumatize"? Everyone decides for himself …

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