2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
As my therapist aptly notes: “Everyone lives life within the Maps of your world . A wonderful metaphor! I agree!
Think about it … People perceive reality differently, interpret it in their own way, communicate differently, love … In the same human world, in the same country, at the same time, in similar circumstances, but … completely, completely different …
Why? Yes, because they come into this life in completely different conditions, falling into completely different hands - hands that set special life scenario.
Remember the aphorism: "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"? Exactly so: parental influence becomes the defining framework of the future scenario, with its vowel and unspoken prescription, programs and message.
Therefore, in adulthood, this personal World Map it will not be superfluous manifest and comprehendadjusting in the best way for yourself. Actually, this is the main principle of any direction of therapy: diagnose childhood "sores", with further improvement … And one of the important methods of such work - studying and healing introjects … By identifying and changing ineffective attitudes, we will adjust our life program, improving the personal scenario.
Let me give you a conditional example …
Imagine a person with a tendency to get stuck in difficult relationships with completely dissonant and often destructive people. Well, he is uncomfortable in some kind of relationship (irreparably and for a long time), why is it easier (showing irreconcilability of positions) to complete an inappropriate tandem, orienting oneself towards a more coordinated partnership, right? But no! He desperately - for centuries - will fight for the slightest improvement, wasting on this a huge amount of his soul, life; as a rule, with a tiny result: dissonant people are an unsuitable tandem - and there is no need to suffer here.
Do you think the error given in the example of the person in the properties of his character?
I undertake to assume that character in this case is a secondary quality, most likely behind the back of a particular personality is the figure of a rejecting parent, whose mercy our hero is accustomed to deserve since childhood - with fantastic costs with tiny results.
What can be done here?
1. Formulate the problem and identify introjects that trigger the "broken" algorithm.
2. Revise the destructive messages from childhood, replacing them with new ones - effective and healthy.
3. Affirm useful principles in your future life through all sorts of ways and strategies. I will name one …
The famous practice of the famous Louise Hay
Every morning, standing in front of the mirror, address yourself by name - with respect, recognition and love - giving yourself important, happy permissions … In our case, something like this …
"I allow myself to be accepted and successful!"
"I give myself the right to an easy and kind relationship!"
"I let myself go into harmony with the people around me!"
And so on and so forth…
Each therapist has many different techniques in his arsenal.
The main thing is that life programs can be significantly healed by improving the matrix formulas of life, changing your reality!
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