2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Can principles, values and beliefs spoil life?
Our values, principles and beliefs do not come about for a reason. They make us who we are. We call ourselves doctors, students, husbands, wives and professionals because we have some idea of ourselves.
When we are born, we have none of this. We do not have values to structure our lives and principles to rely on. The more we develop and become involved in the social context, the more values and beliefs we have.
All this is arranged according to the principle of creative adaptation.
In our life, a certain situation happens that needs to be handled somehow. You need to treat it somehow, act in some way, make some choices and perform some kind of set of actions that help to deal with this situation. Values and beliefs grow out of these situations.
Every situation in life is a challenge
In each situation, we gain experience at the level of feelings, outlook on life, desires and awareness. Then we begin to assimilate this experience.
This is how what I tried or did became me. I did so - it means that I am such and such. Other people have done so - it means that they are such and such.
Thus, we describe the reality in which we find ourselves.
What happens next?
Then a new situation appears in our life and we adapt to it again. We adapt to every situation in our life. Or we don't adapt based on past experience.
Beliefs, values and principles allow us to economize mentally. When faced with new situations, we try to understand if they work in this new format. But if new situations go beyond the old principles, we try to adjust to old beliefs so as not to change ourselves. Therefore, what initially appeared as a creative device begins to deteriorate over time. What was useful and gave support turns out to be a limitation in the new situation.
By limiting yourself to past values and not giving yourself the opportunity to revise them, you cannot organize new activities. For example, you want to become a street musician, but your values do not involve playing outside the conservatory where you studied. The image of a street musician does not fit into the image that you already know, and you decide that this is not for you.
This happens with any innovation in your life. Values, on the one hand, provide support, and on the other, they limit development.
If you want to develop, be attentive to how values, worldviews, ideas about yourself and other people, and beliefs about how the world work, change in the course of your life.
Look back at the last 5 or 10 years of your life and ask yourself how your ideas about yourself and the world have changed during this time.
Someone with joy, or with horror will discover that no, they have not changed. And this is a dangerous thing. If values and ideas about the world have not changed, then you have not changed. This means that your development has been stopped.
If even 500 years ago people could afford the luxury of not changing and living the way their parents lived, now the world makes different demands.
We are developing and we need to adapt. If you want to limit your ability to adapt, you need to grip your values and beliefs with an iron grip and never change them.
If you want to develop, then after each new contact, a movie that you watched, or a book that you read, ask yourself a question - have my ideas about the world changed now? How and how much?
You don't have to become chameleons and change for every situation. But gradual and small changes in your values and beliefs will make you more flexible and stronger.
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