2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"I am already living the life of my dreams" - once I accidentally heard these magic words. They helped me think and changed my life.
What kind of dream life is it? What emotions are you filled with? What are your life values and priorities? And what is so special and attractive about her?
Everyone has their own answers to these questions. But experience, analysis and practice show that there are much more coincidences in our desires than differences.
Let's explore taking as a basis N. Pezeshkian's balance model.
Body. You sleep like a baby, wake up with ease. You are satisfied with your health, appearance and energy. Hair density, muscle elasticity and quality of sex are all in order.
Intelligence. Intelligence is the envy of everyone who has ever spoken to you. You are satisfied with your level of education, social achievements, quantity and quality of material wealth.
Emotions, contacts. You respect yourself and accept yourself as you are. You are happy in family and friendship. Your main emotions are joy, pride, peace, gratitude.
Meanings, values. It's more difficult here. In the three areas of life considered, we often want the same thing, but everyone has their own meanings and values. Someone has health at the head of everything, someone has love, someone has money, and someone has fame and recognition. It's important to be honest with yourself.
There is a very interesting moment here - introducing the life of our dreams - we agree on what we want, but often it is unattainable because it is at odds with our life values and priorities. Namely, based on what is important to us (and not what we want to be important) we make daily choices.
Arrange life values and priorities
You can wish to be slim and healthy as much as you want, but if health occupies an honorable 20th place in the hierarchy of values, then these are absolutely senseless attempts.
There are several stages required to achieve the goal:
1. Determine for yourself your life priorities and values. If so far they are completely at odds with the Dream Life, then perhaps it is worth thinking about changes.
2. Make a choice based on them
3. Actually perform an action for the benefit of achieving the desired
The difference between a disorderly set of actions that do not bring the desired result and action for the good is significant.
How to understand, feel, feel and realize that you are already living the life of your dreams? There are people who are already doing this, but false values and priorities take them away from themselves and force them "seek live someone else's life."
I recommend asking yourself the following questions more often:
Whose desires am I satisfying now (mine or someone else's)?
Whose goals am I achieving (mine or someone else's)?
How much quality life time do I devote primarily to myself?
Whose life am I really living, living? Maybe this is the dream life of my parents, my kind? And my Self dreams of something else and it is often at odds with the life that others dream for me?
What do I want for myself at this stage of my development? What do others want for me at this stage of my development?
What do I want from myself at this stage of my life? What do others want from me in the same situation?
What do I want to give to others? And what "gifts" are others forcing me to do?
And also more often to reflect on the difference of concepts - desire, whim, "Wishlist", the true need for different spheres of life.
And the most important question is how did my priorities and values come about? Did I choose them deliberately, or am I just repeating what was important to the parents?
Let's remember life his dreams and do the maximum in order to live it NOW.
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