2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Catch-22 is a manipulative technique in which an unprepared person falls into the trap of their choice. Why "trap"? Because whatever choice he makes of the proposed, will still lose. The manipulator's trick is beneficial to him, but not to the one with whom he wants to play his game.
There is also a film of the same name "Catch - 22". The bureaucratic system is, in principle, awash with such "tricks".
This technique is well illustrated by the expression: "you work - there is no time to live, and if you do not work, there is nothing"; Well, and anecdote in the subject: - Doctor, I'm coughing. - Accept "Purgen". - I accepted it, now I'm afraid to cough ").
From V. Pelevin:
- So, "catch-22" is as follows: no matter what words are uttered on the political stage, the very fact of a person's appearance on this stage proves that we are facing a whore and a provocateur. Because if this man had not been a whore and a provocateur, no one would have let him onto the political stage - there are three cordon rings with machine guns. Elementary, Watson: if a girl sucks a dick in a brothel, it follows with a high degree of probability that this is a prostitute.
I felt resentment for my generation.
- Why is it necessary to be a prostitute, - I said. - Or maybe it's a seamstress. Who just arrived from the village yesterday. And she fell in love with a plumber fixing souls in a brothel. And the plumber took her with him to work, because she temporarily has nowhere to live. And there they had a free minute.
Samartsev raised his finger:
- It is on this unspoken assumption that the whole fragile mechanism of our young democracy rests …
In the practice of a psychologist, there are often situations when clients are put in a delicate position.
For example, a young woman comes, who complains about a toxic relationship with a man: "And I can’t live with him, I’ve brought myself to depression, and I can’t live without him - at least get into a noose. What advice would you give me: leave him or stay?"
Having made any decision for the client, the psychologist finds himself on the hook of manipulation. In any case, the client can blame him, saying: "I listened to you, and now it only got worse. And in general, I heard the psychologist does not give advice."
The psychologist himself exposes himself to the same risk, who makes "magic" promises to solve the client's problem, for example, in 5 sessions.
And if he doesn't decide, then what? The client will be to blame - did he do it wrong? Or will the psychologist return the money to the client, because the promised result was not achieved in 5 sessions?
With Catch - 22, a person who is led by a manipulator always loses.
So, the wife asks her husband: "Tell me, now do you love me more than before?"
If a man says "yes, now more," the reproach may follow, "then you didn't love me before?" Any answer that the manipulator expects puts his interlocutor in a stalemate.
The most successful answer here, perhaps, will be: “I loved and love you. Love has no continuum from“love rather than not”to“absolutely love.”Love is not measured in kilograms, centimeters … A person either loves or not. Everything else from the evil one."
Here's another common manipulation from Catch-22: "Dad, who's prettier - me or Sister Katya?"
Here parents do not get lost and, as a rule, answer: "You and Katya are both beauties, equally good for us."
Catch-22 is often found in the Karpman triangle. The mother is trying to assert her power over her son in order to wipe her daughter-in-law's nose. The daughter-in-law, in turn, does not give up in the struggle for power over her spouse. The mother asks her son to come after work, help her with the housework, the wife also has her own plans for her husband, she wants him to spend the evening with her family. The husband tries to outline the boundaries, calls his mother, explains that he will come tomorrow. The mother begins to reproach him with weak character, indifference, dislike, manipulate his health, etc. As a result, the husband finds himself in a stalemate - no matter what decision he makes, he will still turn out to be bad for either the wife or the mother.
The story is similar to the biblical parable, when two women could not share a child, each claiming to be his mother. They came to the judgment of King Solomon.
Solomon ordered to bring a sword.
Without a moment's hesitation, he said: - Let both be satisfied. Cut the baby in half and give each half of the baby.
One of the women, hearing his words, changed in her face and prayed: - Give the child to my neighbor, she is his mother, just do not kill him!
The other, on the other hand, agreed with the king's decision. “Chop it, let it not get to her or me,” she said resolutely.
Immediately King Solomon said: - Do not kill the child, but give him to the first woman: she is his real mother.
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