2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sometimes parents come to ask for advice: send the child to boxing or drawing? For some reason, no one is considering the option "not to give anywhere." But in most cases this is the most correct decision! Now I will explain why the absence of "development" is better than any "development".
If the “circle” is in kindergarten, the child will be taken to it in his “free” time (they will not be distracted from classes, walks, regime moments). If the selected section is outside the garden, you will take the baby there again to the detriment of "free" time.
Why am I so worried about my free time? Because it is very important: what does the child do if he is left alone? Plays! And this is his main occupation. The most useful, the most developing, and the most enjoyable.
The game develops imagination, memory, speech, thinking: the child learns the properties of objects and learns cause-and-effect relationships, analyzes and predicts. Compliance with the rules of the game trains arbitrariness of behavior and volitional qualities … Actions according to a conceived plan teach how to suppress momentary impulses, be organized, follow through … In interaction with other participants in the game, the child learns friendship, kindness and justice, trains skill defend their point of view, independently make decisions and be responsible for them. Failure, the toddler learns deal with emotions.
The most important thing is that this development takes place without harm to the psyche, nonviolently, gently and dosed.
For some time now, a dangerous tendency has been gaining momentum: to abandon natural forms of play (role-playing, directorial, etc.) for the sake of educational games, or even classes in development centers. I know 6 year olds who can't play! As a result, left without control, these children do not know how to occupy themselves, they are lonely, bored. Maybe our world is now filled with infantile and impulsive people precisely because of the underestimation of the game? Maybe because of this, the number of children with ADHD is so growing?
There are circles, sections, development centers for children in every city. But you don't have to take your child there, you will still be good parents. And when you are asked about "developmental games" on the playground, you can safely say: "No, we don't go anywhere, we just play!"
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