2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How scary it is for an independent adult to be in a situation where he cannot do anything to change it. Many people try to avoid this experience.
After all, he brings with him one of the unbearable sensations - the feeling of his own powerlessness. Allowed to experience, it makes a person small, unhappy and disadvantaged. And it gives rise to the impression of its own insignificance and fear.
Powerless rage makes you rush like a wild beast in a cage, burning itself out from the inside.
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Powerlessness visits us when we want to change something that is beyond our capabilities. It could be an event from the outside world or another person's attitude.
Powerlessness arises from the expectation of oneself to be omnipotent; poor understanding of their own place and, accordingly, their real capabilities.
It may also be a product of fusion, a disturbed ability to separate oneself from another.
Such a distorted perception of reality and an unconscious ascription of great powers to oneself is accompanied by anxiety with the resulting tension of constant control.
Sooner or later, attempts to hold the whole world in their hands fail, which echoes inside with exhausting pain. This pain is caused by the splitting sense of our own success and the security of the world. The idea of oneself suffers, the picture of the world suffers. It seems that you find yourself in pitch darkness or fall into emptiness, losing support … as if the whole universe is being reset …
This is definitely a loss. The illusion of omnipotence has been lost and the feeling of "everything is in order" built on it.
How to live in this world - huge, unpredictable, uncontrollable? To a small, insignificant, vulnerable person … What can he, being powerless in the face of the conditions of reality and the free will of the people around him?
He can find the courage to face powerlessness, to mourn his own limitations and, after that, to cognize the space subject to him.
Over and over again experiencing the experience of powerlessness: recognizing it, accepting it, grieving for it and resigning ourselves … Each new time it is possible to deepen the feeling of one's own true strength, to feel confidence and support in oneself. This is followed by energy, freedom, the ability to act not in vain, repeating the doom of trauma, but easily - creating something new for oneself in one's own life.
Because I am and I matter.
And it makes sense …
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Acceptance of your powerlessness, rejection of narcissistic omnipotence allows you to feel the meaning of every moment of your, personal, human path.
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