CHILDHOOD OF PARANOID PERSONS

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The lives of paranoid people are associated with feelings of shame and humiliation, they constantly expect to be humiliated by others and therefore in some cases they can attack first to avoid painful waiting. The fear of being mistreated makes these people overly alert, which in turn provokes hostile and abusive reactions from others.

Paranoid people are characterized by more or less mild disturbances in thinking and difficulty in understanding that thoughts do not equal actions. It is very difficult for such people to put themselves in the shoes of others and look at something through the eyes of another person.

It is assumed that people who grew up paranoid suffered in childhood from severe impairments to the sense of their own strength. Such children were often oppressed and humiliated. In addition, the child may have witnessed suspicious, judgmental attitudes on the part of the parents, who made it clear that family members are the only people who are trustworthy, and the rest of the world is unsafe.

Paranoid personalities of the borderline and psychotic levels grow up in homes in which criticism and ridicule are the norm in family communication; and in which one child is a "scapegoat" on which the whole family is projected the qualities of "weakness".

People who are in the neurotic-healthy range tend to come from families where warmth and stability were combined with criticism and sarcasm.

Another contribution to the paranoid organization of the personality is made by uncontrollable anxiety in the person who provides the primary care of the child.

The stories of paranoid people are associated with childhood experiences of shame and humiliation, subsequently they constantly expect that they can be humiliated by other people and, because of this, they can attack first in order to eliminate the painful expectations of humiliation.

In addition, the child could be raised by parents who were carriers of beliefs that were not consistent with accepted cultural norms, were distinguished by mood variability and found difficulties in testing reality, and also obsessively related to the psychological integrity of the child's psychological boundaries. The parent often talked about things that did not make any sense and that were not consistent with reality. In response to these characteristics of the parent, the child experiences confusion and fear and is in dire need of conceptually organizing interactions that are difficult to keep in a coherent form in the head. Over time, the child adapts to this interpersonal style of the parent, since the child needs a parent to survive. Adaptation occurs by changing one's own perception of reality in order to give meaning to the peculiarities of parental behavior. This adaptation allows the child to keep in touch with the parent, but this process of maintaining the bond builds a wary and circumspect attitude that targets the permanent possibility and fear of abuse.