2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are so many new things in psychology now!
As soon as there was training in author's transformation programs, I immediately went to study.
What is its meaning?
To help a person go through transformation, you need to understand, and what deep changes did you yourself go through? There are special algorithms for this.
And on this basis, the author's program of deep changes begins to be written for the client.
If you have no experience with transformations, you will NOT be able to write a program. It's just that everything will not be clear, but this is a complex multi-stage creation algorithm.
And so I realized that I myself went through a transformation in my relationship with my mother - what was and what is now is heaven and earth.
From claims, condemnation and guilt, fear of defending my boundaries and illusory expectations that one day she will fall in love, an unconscious desire to save a cold, rejecting, cruel mother - I came to a calm and even relationship with the same mother (you can't buy a new one anywhere) with a sober a look at her, without expectations and judgments, with distinct boundaries and a bold "no."
What did it give me? Strength and energy for your life, goals and plans.
What else? I began to clearly see my mother as an adult, with a lot of strong qualities, who knows how to take and defend herself and does not need my rescue at all.
And what happened? That the strong qualities of my mother continue in me and I can use them for my life. That the passages that my mother develops and discovers (new skills, knowledge, retirement lifestyle), I can also take and apply in my life now or in the future. Its strength continues in me, and I can rely on it at any time.
It was this experience that became the basis for my first author's transformational coaching program “How to let go of claims to my mother and start living my life” for 3 months.
This program has a plan, an algorithm, a structure, and a personal transformation for the client. But I want to test the content: to understand what to leave, change, what to add, how to present information.
I want to take 1-2 people for 3 months exclusively for this coaching program (running-in), we keep the whole focus on the topic of restructuring the relationship with the mother.
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