2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Affection requires a substitute. When you give up attachment, you feel bad. If you stop smoking, you start eating. You leave a person - you rush to all the hard in search of another. The banality "The cure for love - new love" is not about love at all, but about affection.
Why is that?
Look closely at the word itself. To be attached is to be attached. You cannot imagine life without this person. He is not near - and as if you are not there. Nothing pleases you. You cannot focus on the other pleasures of life. You go to your friends only to talk about him. You call him stop a hundred times a day. You bomb his SMS. You track his route when he went on a business trip. If he doesn't answer for a long time, you die quietly. It's good to come home, lie down on the couch and die. But you die when you walk, drink coffee, stand at a bus stop, talk to people, do something … When he appears, you want to close your eyes, grab onto him tightly, and not let go anywhere, and be only with him. And so that no one is around …
If he suffers from the same nonsense, addiction, then you will live together for a long time. How is another question. And if he is normal, he will run from you in front of the train. He doesn't need such happiness.
And you will die for a very long time. A person cannot take it and get rid of it right away. After all, he decorated himself with a collar and put on a chain. He is accustomed to these fetters, freedom fetters him, strangles him, he does not know what to do with it, where to adapt himself … He knows one model of behavior and does not want to give it up. After all, new circumstances require new work on yourself. But I don’t want to … It’s not for nothing that most people do not like changes. And a new circle begins - a new "love" in the old way …
And love is completely different … She does not need words, proofs, she does not need to grab onto her beloved, keep him constantly close … Love encourages you to creativity, to search for new models of behavior … as yourself. He does not prevent you from making discoveries, solving strategic problems, teaching children and building bridges. On the contrary, it frees you from the state of search and opens up new resources for the embodiment of your ideas and aspirations.
Love does not pass even if the beloved is gone. It is either there or not. And this concerns love for a man-woman, parents-children, homeland - and everything that we love …
Perhaps, of all the definitions of love, the most accurate is:
“Love is longsuffering, merciful, love does not envy, love is not exalted, is not proud, does not rage, does not seek its own, does not get irritated, does not think of evil, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; Covers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, endures everything. Love never ceases, although prophecies will cease and knowledge will be abolished”(Bible, 1 Cor. 13: 4-8).
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