Why Is The Wife Cheating?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Cheating a wife to her husband for reasons and consequences is fundamentally different from a man's betrayal. It is rarely a sudden accident and develops in several stages

Due to the fact that in society there is a stereotype about female monogamy, girls are taught to have sex only with their beloved man. A woman thinks that if she does not want a man, she has stopped loving him, because "you can only lust for a loved one."

Prerequisites for female infidelity

In fact, many women do not even suspect that in the period from 27 to 35 years old, the female body undergoes hormonal changes and testosterone production increases in it. At this age, women begin to strive for greater independence and success in their careers or business. They also begin to experience a strong increase in libido and the need for a large number of sexual partners. At the same time, interest in the current partner disappears, the relationship between husband and wife acquires the connotation of a “brother-sister” or “son-mother” relationship.

The first step of a woman to cheat on her husband

At the first stage, a woman has a feeling that she has missed something in her life. Possessing everything she dreamed of: a home, a family, a good husband - a woman does not feel happy. The woman explains the lack of sexual appetite by the state of joylessness and depression.

She is so reluctant to have sex that she tries to avoid physical contact with her husband in any way. Complaints of poor health and fatigue become chronic. Because of the attitude to sex with her husband as a conjugal duty or work, like washing dishes, going to the grocery store, a woman tries to go to bed after her husband falls asleep.

Sometimes a woman experiences a feeling of violence against herself even from the touch of her husband: the body becomes stiff, it becomes difficult to breathe, or an unpleasant sensation appears in the stomach.

Most women understand that something is wrong with them and their behavior is unnatural. Added to this is the fear that a lack of interest in sex could push the husband to the side, or worse, to divorce.

The second step of a woman to cheating on her husband

Further, in the second stage, women become aware of the growth of sexual desire for other men. This understanding for women is fatal, since many have not had sexual desire for a long time. They experience terrible feelings of guilt and regret, whether they have had sex with a new partner or not, whether the connection is purely emotional, or both.

Some have an identity crisis - even those who try to forget what happened. There is a feeling that they have lost a part of themselves. Following the traditional belief that a woman can be either “good” or “bad,” a woman begins to question her status as a decent woman and that she deserves her husband.

Some women try to overcome guilt by becoming more considerate of their husbands. But the unwillingness of physical intimacy with her husband highlights the usual flaws of the partner in bright colors. The woman "begins to see" and literally everything in her spouse begins to irritate her. At the same time, the desire to have sex with another man grows. The woman begins to associate this desire with the impossibility of realizing it in family life, blaming her husband and his past behavior for this. Having found an excuse for herself, the woman enters into an extramarital affair, betrayal occurs.

The third stage of female infidelity

At the third stage, the woman is already in an extramarital affair, breaks up with her lover or is thinking about divorce.

Women who have entered into an extramarital relationship again "come to life" and experience feelings similar to the feeling of falling in love. At the same time, women feel intense pain from the fact that they have to choose between their husband and their new love. They think that they are treating their husbands badly and dishonestly, but they cannot refuse a new relationship. Many times before meeting their lover, they swear to themselves that this will be the last meeting, but the time comes and they go on a date again. Unable to break off the fornication, the woman concludes that their lover is their destiny. Many are convinced that marriage should be based on love and are persistently looking for their soul mate. They believe that if they find "their" person, then love will last longer. Therefore, when a woman wants a man, she thinks that she is in love with him, and when the desire is extinguished, she believes that she has stopped loving him. In fact, she just became addicted to the "intoxication" caused by the chemicals in the body as a result of the new relationship.

Some live in a state of indecision for many years. "Should I stay with my husband or divorce?" - this is the question that constantly revolves in their heads.

Many women decide to divorce

In most cases, their husbands did everything possible and impossible to make their wives' lives as comfortable and happy as possible. They became more attentive by spending more time at home and helping their wife with the housework. But for all the complaints, past and present, that husbands don't spend much time with them, the last thing they want to do is spend a lot of time with their husband right now.

The reason women are demanding a divorce was to find themselves.

They assure their husbands that it may be possible to preserve their marriage if they live separately from each other for a while. They keep repeating to their husbands that some time away from each other will help correct the situation. In the hope that over time the fog will clear up and they will understand for sure whether they want to stay with their husband or divorce in order to be with their lover.

In an effort to free themselves from the restrictions that marriage imposes on them and to spend more time with their lover, women ask their husbands to leave for a while. This allows them to further enjoy the feeling of "drunkenness" they experienced with their new partner without destroying their marriage. At the same time, husbands do not realize that their wife is having an affair on the side. Their lack of suspicion is usually due to the fact that their wives show complete indifference to sex, and they continue to believe that their wife is a "good" girl.

Some women break off their fornication at this stage.

In most cases, this does not happen on their initiative. It's just that their lover loses interest in them for some reason. When the connection on the side ends, the woman experiences a severe breakdown. Deep depression begins, and all your anger and anger is poured out on their husbands. Unaware that they just have a "drug withdrawal" due to the abrupt cessation of the production of chemicals in the body, the woman decides that because of her indecision, she missed her happiness.

When they returned to their families, these women did not return emotionally to their husbands. Believing that they finally understand what they really need from a life partner, many women begin to make efforts to find new relationships that could give them the same feelings that they experienced in extramarital affairs. For these women, the new relationship was a blank sheet of paper on which they could again write that they were "good" girls. Some, during a temporary separation, began to look for a new partner. Others returned to the family, but continued to search. Despite the fact that most women are no longer attracted to their husbands, the husband's suspicion of treason or his intention to leave the family forces women to renew episodic relationships with their husbands, trying to save the marriage until another decision is made.

Eventually:

Those women who remained married and continued extramarital relationships argued that their sex life with their husbands only got better because of this

did not feel discomfort from the fact that they were in a sexual relationship with both her husband and her lover, believing that the lover was their fate, but for one reason or another they could not part with her husband.

believed that the absence of a common life with a lover only strengthens mutual feelings. Almost all of these women were involved in extramarital affairs with a married man. They believed that such a relationship could continue indefinitely without harming the spouses.

Those women who chose to divorce

and just starting to build a new relationship, they usually expressed relief that they had finally decided on this step, and felt great. Many of the women who left the family and who have remarried and have lived for several years in a new marriage expressed their unwillingness to discuss past events. However, they expressed guilt and regret for hurting their children and ex-husband, and that they now experience the same feelings of depression again in their current marriage.

Finding yourself in a difficult situation, do not rush to draw a conclusion and make a drastic decision. Seek help from a specialist.