Self-esteem And Quality Of Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Self-rejection and low self-esteem is one of the common psychological problems in people. A person considers himself unsuccessful, does not accept himself, has many complexes. Complexes can only interfere with him in life. Self-rejection, self-dislike is an emotional state characterized by a person's self-doubt, negative feelings towards oneself. Such a person does not know how to see the good in himself, he feels that he is not successful. Often this state is accompanied by a guilt complex.

Very often a person seeks to meet other people's expectations, to act in accordance with what the other person expects from him. There are even unrecognized parental notices

following which a person tries to exist in the world around him. At the same time, he has to change his beliefs, compromise principles, which leads to a feeling of dissatisfaction, rejection of himself. The pursuit of false standards or insufficient self-image, misconceptions about oneself also significantly reduce self-esteem, form self-dislike or even hatred.

As a result, such a person suffers from obsessive-compulsive disorder, various phobias, and is haunted by panic attacks. Also, it is these exaggerated requirements and certain obligations to others, themselves, that are the reasons for OCD. Hatred of oneself and one's appearance has catastrophic consequences up to the development of serious psychosomatic diseases.

For example, it is difficult for a woman who does not know how to love herself to build relationships, realize herself, understand her purpose. Happiness flees from her.

What are some of the things that tell you that you don't love yourself?

• When you look at yourself in the mirror, you only pay attention to your flaws. You do not notice thick eyelashes, bright lips, beautiful face contours. You see a snub nose, 14 freckles, too deep-set eyes, and shorter than the models. You look for flaws and do not notice the merits. And there are always more disadvantages.
• You constantly think about what happened to you bad. You are comparing yourself to others, not to your advantage. The job is worse, the pay is lower, and the vacation is shorter. Any event in your life, you perceive from the point of view of criticism. Find negative sides in this event, and start twisting them.
• You feel sorry for yourself. You feel unhappy. Why is everything wrong with me, you sob? At the same time, reveling in pity, you do not seek to change anything. You just need to feel sorry for yourself.
• You are constantly making excuses to other people. For all. Whatever you do, right or wrong, as soon as you make an independent choice or act, you start making excuses for it, fearing that you will be judged.
• The aspiration will please everyone. You are waiting to be praised. Praise means a lot to you. Because if someone thinks that you deserve praise, then you are not yet completely lost.
• It's hard for you to refuse another person. It seems to you that you, with your refusal, offend him, he will turn away from you or will think badly of you. You agree. Often, to the detriment of yourself.
• You are always helping others, but not yourself. Other people's problems are spinning in my head. Thinking how to help one, the other, the third. And you are engaged in solving other people's problems. But the idea to help yourself does not come to mind.
• You are unable to defend your interests. Your boundaries are constantly being violated. You are unable to defend yourself. You don't know how and don't really want to.
• Be afraid of criticism. Critics for you, this is pain, it is a knife in the heart. You are very sensitive to it. Often to tears.
• You are indecisive. It is difficult for you to make a choice. It is difficult to make a decision on your own. Because the fear of error hangs over you like a sword of Damocles.
• There are people around you who know everything better than you and for you. They know what to do and how to do the right thing for you. They know what suits you, what you need to do, where to study and whom to marry. You always do what they said, even if you don't feel like it.
• It's hard for you to accept compliments. You are frightened, you are confused. It is difficult for you to imagine that someone can sincerely praise or please you. That someone might admire you. This means that there are selfish motives in the compliment. Somewhere within, there is a conviction that you are not worthy of praise. There is nothing to praise you for. Here's always to scold, please.
• You don't like taking care of yourself. Old T-shirt, unkempt. Fashionable and beautiful things for others. And you will do it anyway. Often you eat high-calorie bad moods or drink alcohol. Taking care of yourself, your appearance and your health is not in your rules.
• You never pretend to be the best piece of the pie. But the leftovers, yes. This is fine. Or if you didn't get it at all, then you take it as the norm. It's OK. I’ll do it. Who am I?

And one more sign. Perhaps most important for women. A person who does not love himself is incapable of loving another. Even if she is loved, then it is difficult to accept this love. Hard. Impossible. Because the love of another, in such cases, is a way to assert oneself, to prove to oneself that one can accept oneself. It is impossible to reciprocate fully. And such a woman, requires attention, constantly controls the man, does not trust him. And these simple and effective methods are destroying relationships in the bud. And then loneliness and self-rejection begins again.

It takes a lot of effort and time to love yourself. And, perhaps, the help of a psychologist.

But you can start right now.

Go to the mirror and tell your reflection: I love you! I love myself! “And do it every day. Many, many times.

(Below I offer an Affirmation for Women)

Someone will grin now and think: Why should I love myself …

And not at all! It is respected for something. And they love, just like that. For what you are

Self-love is the desire to understand and accept yourself as you are. In the opinion of many outstanding people, it is this quality that is indispensable for a person.

Each person is unique in his own way and endowed with his own unique characteristics. True self-love involves self-control and correct introspection. It does not exclude defeats, mistakes and failures, but allows a person to treat them as ordinary phenomena. Mistakes and blunders do not stop a self-loving person on the way to achieving his goal.

Self-love is as essential as air. You came into this world not perfect, you are building your own life. The more a person accepts himself, the more confident he is, the more correctly he evaluates himself in the end. "Sober" self-esteem helps to realize, while low or overestimated can be an obstacle in this process.

To have positive self-esteem and learn to accept yourself, take yourself positively and praise more often. You don't have to be 100% perfect; each person can make mistakes, have their own characteristics, habits that others may not like … But this does not give you the right to be unworthy of love and respect. In order to find your happiness, realize yourself, build happy and long-term relationships, all this is impossible without self-love.

Affirmation for a woman every day:

We recite in front of the mirror, in the morning and in the evening

I am a woman and I am proud of it!

I am beautiful and feminine!

My heart is open to love!

I can take care of myself!

I have a cute character!

Feminine energy overwhelms me!

I radiate happiness, joy and love!

I am the one and only!

I am strong and free!

I am grateful to the Almighty for being a woman!

I take care of myself and value myself!

I am young, slim and sexy!

I look at life with confidence and optimism!

My feminine power knows no bounds!

I am a magnet for great relationships!

I love my body and always take care of it!

I am the happiest woman in the world!