Erotic Math Lessons

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

… we are like birds weaned from water

and flew too long south

fought off the pack … it's a tight you, and this passion that flooded the shores, and this boom

and viscosity in overtones, and even grace

- a little animal from the inside, everything is too sudden and sudden, and the ripples of sleep are slightly twitched …

touch, hold, Look, find me with your palm, thigh, wing, feel the shore, walk on it trembling, count the days, go straight to me, without a plan, without faith, without rhythm …

and I - lie

and think that this summer has covered us

stubborn haze of their hot canvases, that we will melt, flow out like gas

and helium from a balloon … tenderness through a sieve

crucified fingers …

caress you without shame, and know that this summer will not reveal secrets:

we are wild beasts who only know yeah -

take me

do this

come in

get it

Marta Yakovleva

A magical alchemy of passion that throws us to each other. And there is nothing else, just me and you. Eye to eye, skin to skin. Nobody has ever been so close. It seems THAT THIS can recoup and pay for all past, present and future shortcomings. This is an explosion - the birth of a new Universe. How does all this then end in devastation, irritation, the division of children and property?

People often come to me with a request to find a loved one. Someone who becomes a biased witness to their life. Moreover, for a long time. Desirable forever. The practical side of the issue today seems to be provided by dating sites, social networks, applications on the phone - there is a selection. But what to do with it?

"How do you make chemistry happen to the right people?" - a real request, by the way. Of course, I do not know the answer, otherwise I would have already written articles "How to earn your seventh million", but I can imagine what increases and what reduces our chances in this game.

I'll probably skip a big piece on how to learn to understand what you want and what you feel and feel that you have enough currency to pay for a ticket to a happy life. There must be some kind of intrigue. In addition, this is usually several months of therapy)) I'll try right away about

Where does the "disagreement" come from after everything was so enchanting? Or "I realized that we are completely different people", although it seemed that you feel and think as one whole? Of course, you are different, but it was a secret? It's not the same for everybody. In order to see and understand this, one must at least look there. Or remember from school mathematics that such a condition is necessary, but not sufficient. For example, the condition that a number is divisible by two is necessary, but not sufficient for its divisibility by six.

"Butterflies do the same." There is chemistry, without which attraction and the emergence of relations between two people is hardly possible, and plus to this, there is also compatibility, when it is much easier to build a long and happy relationship. Compatibility is what I'm like you in. Much here grows out of what our families, our friends, our "parties" are like to each other. If we are from completely different "parties", then the merciless "in what we are not alike" outweighs. And, for example, a completely indecent topic of social inequality may arise.

You will not ask "What the hell can there be social inequality in our enlightened age of rabid democracy?" I remember 30 years ago, in the era of socialist equality, my friend doubted whether she would marry her future ex-husband. “After all, we are not the same berry field,” she said. She had three generations with higher education on each side, and the young man was, as my mother used to say, "from workers, almost from peasants."

For example, you value high intelligence, a healthy body and responsibility for the life of society. Then the time for reading, solving puzzles, mind games and philosophical conversations is sacred for you. Then you are ready to get up an hour earlier and go for a walk, watch what you eat and the childish plaintive "well, yeah, still candy" does not touch you at all. Then you are interested in politics, freeze (or fry) at rallies, be sure to go to the polls and maybe even actively work in one of the parties. All this is the daily decision-making on the choice of something, and therefore the rejection of something else, and either your loved ones share your choices, or you learn to negotiate (which is not an easy task at all), or this is a constant life in a struggle.

How often do we take an interest in other people's values when we go on dates? For the last article, I received the following comment:

“I once had a frank conversation with a family of Indians who had lived in the USA for more than 10 years. I asked them about the arranged marriage procedure - they had just that. I was amazed that the decision on marriage was made after 2-3 meetings, and I - with all my proletarian directness asked them: how are you guys not scared? To marry a man, communication with whom it comes down to just a few hours? To which I received a wonderful answer. They said: listen, here you are, Westerners culture, meet for years before the wedding And therefore, when meeting, you do not discuss anything important. You talk about nature, weather, clothes and other garbage and NEVER touch on significant topics, being sure that there is still time, and you will talk about it THEN. And we have 2-3 meetings, so we immediately talk about the main thing: children, money, distribution of responsibilities in the family, etc."

It's about compatibility, because it's about values. We are not Hindus, and we are not Hindus, but we also know a lot of githiks. For example, when selecting candidates, it is useful to remember that our first reaction is based on the principle

Each of us may have our own set of "this is not," and it is useful to be aware of what is behind them. If you get a shiver when they call you a bunny, pussy, or babe on your first date, listen to yourself. What story do you immediately write in your head about this person? What kind of pictures do you draw? Who addresses you (or not you) in this way? In what situations? Check yourself often - do you have too many dilbreakers (why not)? If so, then perhaps you don't want a relationship and you shouldn't force yourself. Isn't it not enough? If there are few of them, then perhaps you quickly become involved in caustic chemical relationships (you want to call them passion, love at first sight, or madness), and then go through a long period of rehabilitation.

Yes, and in our rational time it happens that "passion strikes like lightning or a Finnish knife." It is quite possible to enjoy this, if you do not immediately turn the French comedy into a Greek tragedy. If you do your best to remember with the remains of your head that "besides chemistry, there is mathematics, physical education, philosophy and home economics." And listen when the body, soul and brains scream "Hey, you can't do this with me!" And speak out loud. You have to talk about the important, even if you are dying of fear that these words will be the last in a relationship. Talking about it without accumulating bitterness, without squeezing the spring "I will tolerate" so that later it will shoot - you will not catch it. If you are not entirely from different planets, then "talk" often works. Eros is the great engine of change. Eventually, Charlotte converted to Judaism, and Sheldon finally slept with Amy.

And yet a violent chemical reaction with high incompatibility is very bad news. If you already know a little about hearing yourself and speaking, the story will be at least short. If not, you fall into a long trap of "love-hate", unanswered text messages and phone calls smashed against the wall of iPhones, one-way tickets to Easter Island, searching for any traces on social networks, littered work projects and kilotons of pain. A cruel experience that does not allow us to forget about how much more animals we are. Fortunately or unfortunately.

But since we have been people for a long time, we can also remember about compatibility and start searching from it, as a necessary condition. Are you looking for your Eros, chemistry or passion among those who

"Years.. ten years ago, on one of the first dates organized by the dating service, we found ourselves between tables, at which two more similar couples were sitting: a Russian-speaking and a Hebrew-speaking. We sat close, and cultural customs do not include lowering the volume of the conversation, so on the left I heard mumbling in Hebrew: "I have been divorced for five years, two children and my wife remained, but on Saturdays they are with me," protection at the factory, and even during cleaning, everything to her, this slut, Schaub studied! ".

My companion went out to smoke, and I was sitting there hanging out my soup, listening, there was nowhere to go. And on the left I hear a woman asks in detail: "Where did you study? And what degree? Do you have your own apartment now?" And on the right - compliments to legs, eyes, hair, a story about exploits back in the Soviet army. Only he speaks, she looks at him reverently. And then a lady enters … (Right now, I'll take some air): "Tell me, (for you!), Kolya, how much vodka you can drink at one time?" A curtain. I'm being carried away)))

It's not in our cultural tradition to talk about finance. It is indecent. About vodka - it is more decent and understandable."

And it is indecent about finances, and about children from a previous marriage, and about illnesses, and about plans for the future, and about the fact that you have a quick-tempered character and you will have to somehow deal with this, and about elderly parents …

In a word, it's better to figure it out in advance. Although, here is an ambush. With complete cultural, emotional, financial, social, even physical compatibility (in the sense that technically all the details work flawlessly), without Eros, chemistry and elements of madness, boredom will creep into your ideal relationship pretty soon. It is also very important to remember this and understand why the spark breaks through you. Imagine, you can also find out about yourself, at least a little!

The ability to beautifully weave words, bright blue eyes, the talent to assemble engines, a tanned figure, touch, the ability to pay attention to bright little things, how she wrinkles her nose when she cries, and he stubbornly frowns his eyebrows … All these are quite perceptible "clicks", oh which, probably, is not worth thinking, but it makes sense to somehow linger on these sensations, so as not to lose them in the process of computer analysis. Because if you delve exclusively into analysis from the very first date, there will be tension with sparks.

Orientation in the space of acquaintances and relationships requires an understanding of both principles: chemistry and compatibility. And, perhaps, we will have to return to the intrigue - what do you still want? What makes a person suitable for you, compatible, yours? And what features of him can ignite a spark of passion? Question