Mother And Paternity Discrimination

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

From time to time I come across posts on social networks about how an evil father, a rich one, deprived of parental rights of a poor mother of a child, bribed judges, psychologists, psychiatrists, all lawyers in the world and threw the victim into the street without a penny, restricted or deprived of parental rights. And a bunch of comments from sympathetic mothers, a bunch of insults to my father. But no one even thinks soberly that to deprive the mother of parental rights, especially in Russia or Ukraine, where the law is always on the mother's side, very good reasons are needed, and not just a rich dad's whim to annoy his wife by weaning a child. It's easier for him to give up the fight. But no one delves into such logical reflections, and this is what the victim needs - to raise a whirlwind, play on pity, condemn this beast husband: “How dare he take the children away from their mother! Encroached on sacred things!"

But let's figure out all the same, under what conditions such a situation could be extended through the legal field with similar consequences. What lies on the surface is the mother's mental illness or alcoholism, drug addiction. This is what you can really "touch", see. But if she, who writes this plaintive post, does not inform the audience that she has an official diagnosis? If, for example, she used psychoemotional violence against children in the form of blackmail and manipulation, then the consequences of such blackmail should be recorded by the relevant documents provided by the father in court. But she is not presenting evidence of her violence in this post. These are video and audio materials, conclusions of psychologists (as a rule, not one, but a consultation), a conclusion of psychiatrists (as a rule, this is also a consultation). Why does none of the commentators come up with the sober idea that such things can happen to a mother only in the case of evidence of child abuse proven in court? And this violence, especially if it is not physical, is not so easy to prove.

Now in our countries there is a law on responsibility for domestic violence (this includes emotional abuse). And if it is carried out by one of the adults over the child, then the second adult is simply obliged to stop him.

I saw these crying posts of mothers whose husbands are not only Russians or Ukrainians, but also Italians, Dutchmen, Germans, Americans. So what? Did rich husbands bribe all the courts of the world? No! This is simply outright social discrimination against paternity and a manipulative devaluation of its right to protect children from mother's violence. And all because "mothers can do anything!"

If the father uses violence against the child, then we will condemn this in three counts! But if this is a mother, then why is society so subjective in this part of the issue of domestic violence? Very often we see young women who, for the sake of money, marry rich people and give birth to them as many children as possible in order to "catch on", while they are not at all ready to be mothers, but rather are attached to the dad in common with the children. Because of their psychological unpreparedness and desire to be financially secure themselves, they "tolerate" their husbands in everyday life, tolerate in bed. They, in fact, hate their children, who "make" a lot of suffering because of financial dependence, but who at the same time, are that support and protection from the fear of loneliness, helplessness, self-doubt, fear of poverty. And all this mental stress pours out on children in the form of emotional abuse, submission of children to their power, total control over the child, and often blackmailing the husband with children, screaming.

If a father is able to notice such things and understand that his wife cripples the psyche of children and to defend children, then why do we not respect such fathers and stigmatize them for violence against women? And the explanation for everything is "he is rich." Now this wealth becomes a weapon against him. After all, "he bribed everyone."

A woman who sells herself and her life for money thinks precisely in these categories that everything can be bought and sold and manipulates the feelings of those people who rush to help the poor victim.

I suppose you shouldn't be so emotional about such matters. Each of the mothers knows that she is imperfect and that in one way or another she hurts her child. The best defense against this pain and the realization of one's imperfection is the idealization of the image of the mother. We are saints! We can do anything! We are mothers! Mothers' narcissism is the biggest evil that can happen to a child!

Well, the discrimination of paternity leads to the fact that a man, initially as a father, is devalued in his rights, and, consequently, is psychologically removed by the women themselves from responsibility for the psychological health of their children by the very same slogans about maternal holiness and hyperimportance. After all, a man “does everything wrong with a child”, “mom knows better how to do it right with a child”. Such a man is easy to control with just the word "Yazhem!"

I salute fatherly responsibility and the ability to resist the manipulative slogans of the Yazhematery. Parents should share the responsibility for their children equally. And if one of the parents is a rapist, the other is obliged to stand up for the children and prove this protection in the legal field.