It Was This Man Who Came Into Your Life For A Reason

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Any man who was attracted to you, attracted and will still be attracted, this is a man worthy of you. The concept of "worthy" is very relative, because everyone is worthy of his own. You are worthy of exactly what is attracted to you.

If you understand the purpose of a person in life, it will become easier for you to learn to feel love for him, because there will be an understanding that the person in my life is a teacher, and I am grateful to him for that.

It is not for nothing that this particular man came into your life! After all, our whole life is a big school, and the subject of study is one - love. Through men, the most important and, at times, the most difficult lessons come to us, and there is only one specialty - Love and self-acceptance.

We can give love to another person only when we ourselves have it. We cannot give to another what we ourselves do not have. Your man is always your mirror, remember this! It only reflects what is in you. Recently I heard from a woman that I am ready to try only for a worthy man … Do you hear yourself? What is a decent man?

Any man who was attracted to you, attracted and will still be attracted, this is a man worthy of you. The concept of "worthy" is very relative, because everyone is worthy of his own. You are worthy of exactly what is attracted to you. If only weak-willed mattresses or mama's sons are attracted to you, this is neither bad nor good, it's just a fact. A fact that shows that you are ready to accept into your life today and now. The man who comes into your life mirrors all your inner problems outward. And you can use this knowledge to look at yourself with new eyes, eyes from the outside.

Let's take a look at the most common situations.

If a jealous person has come into your life, you should learn to redirect your sexual energy into creativity, since a jealous man will never appear in the life of a girl whose sexuality has been worked out.

What lesson does a man bring with him when he opens his hands?

If a tyrant has come into your life, then it's time for you to learn to listen to yourself, because women living with tyrants are women who have completely erased the understanding of what boundaries are, and this turned them into victims. They feel miserable, lonely and abandoned by everyone. "My husband is a tyrant, the weather is bad, and others have joy in life, but I have been cheated, apparently, my fate is to endure and suffer."

Accordingly, a man either puts a woman in her place by his behavior, or teaches this woman to respect herself, restores the structure of her personality, highlights the "victim" program, teaches the defense of boundaries and the ability to stand up for oneself. Another man simply cannot teach such a girl to start listening to herself. The victim needs to experience severe pain in order to finally want to change something in her life.

If a man-alcoholic, addict comes to you, then he is not just attracted to your life. And you chose him for something. To complete some important lesson. What does such a man teach? Let's imagine how a woman behaves in such a pair: she either constantly "nags" him and thereby kills all his masculinity at the root, or is in the state of a "poor thing" who is the most unlucky in life, and everyone owes her.

And the husband drinks, and there is little money, and the children are slovens. Solid sadness, sadness. Accordingly, such a man teaches her in the first situation - femininity, "signals" to her that - as she killed her feminine nature or some important part of herself, so he kills himself with alcohol / drugs, and leaves reality; or, in the second situation, he teaches her to love herself, respect, first of all, herself, growing up, the ability to take responsibility for her life and for the events taking place in it.

If in your life there is a mama's son, a weak-willed, spineless master, then you clearly belong to that category of girls who do not know how to give the reins of government into the hands of the stronger sex. You decide everything yourself, you know everything better than anyone, and you change everyone. You do not notice, but most often your scandals arise on the basis that you want to change a person, but never listen to him. And, yes, now you will deny it.

If a person has come into your life who feeds you with promises, and he always hangs out with friends in the most party places of the city / planet, who speaks beautifully, and you are in love with his syllable, his style, his manner of living and revel in grief, " well, when will you calm down, and we will live together and live in peace. " The answer is never. Such a person came into your life to tell you: “Start to appreciate yourself!

Why are you satisfied that we play by my rules and are you ready to adjust all the time? I disappeared for two months, and you still accept me, because I fed you with beautiful words? You are not appreciated here. If you are now adjusting to me, then even when a worthy man comes into your life who loves you with all his heart, after a while he will stop appreciating you, because you have a habit of adjusting in your head."

There are many more such relationship scenarios, but let's return to the beginning of the article. What does it mean - "I will try only for a worthy man"? A priori, you should try not for someone or for the sake of someone, because your own development is at stake, you are trying in any relationship only for yourself.

If there is a man in life, honestly ask yourself, am I worthy of another? And for what such qualities can I now be awarded a prince on white on a horse? You understand that the prince will also not be with a girl who has a bunch of complexes, cockroaches and manias. All this needs to be worked out. People don't learn to drive a Ferrari.

There is such a concept as "the shadow part of the personality" - these are the qualities that we do not realize in ourselves, do not see, do not accept, they are in us, but for our consciousness they are shrouded in shadow. Thus, mirrors are direct and reverse.

Direct mirror: the quality that annoys you in someone is in yourself. Only you don’t see it, you don’t want to notice it. For example: the husband is lazy, lies on the couch and does nothing. It just brings you to the boiling point, which means that the same laziness is in you. You are also lazy, and you really want to lie down and lie on the couch and look at the ceiling, but you just cannot afford it, because in childhood you were taught to be strong and not just wallow, or you never did it at all, you live in a terrible stress and endless race - work, home, children, school, cleaning, etc.

What does this mean? This does not mean that you need to lie down with your husband and abandon everything, just accept: “yes, somewhere deeply I’m still lazy and even worse than my husband,” and let this quality manifest itself at least sometimes: make yourself a rest, just lie down, go for a massage, deliberately be lazy and relax.

Reverse mirror: we find the quality that annoys you in a man, and see if it is in you with the opposite sign? For example: a man is a weakling, which means that you are strong, you have taken on a lot, and you need to learn to be weak. A man is irresponsible, which means that you are hyperresponsible, you control everything and cannot relax, trust; a man is a liar - you are fixated on the truth, and you constantly need proof and confirmation, there is no faith; a greedy man - you are too stingy, first of all, to yourself, stingy with love, emotions, time … do you understand the principle?

When you realize all this in yourself, firstly, you will accept these qualities, well, or at least begin to accept, and secondly, you will simply become higher than this, realizing that you are something more. When we recognize these qualities in ourselves, then men also change, or their behavior ceases to hurt us.

In general, everything in the world is arranged according to the principle of a mirror. Our entire environment is our reflection. With the help of other people, you can easily see what is in you. If you are dissatisfied with your environment, with your work, you are dissatisfied with yourself first. Our attitude towards ourselves coincides with our attitude towards the people around us. And people, in turn, reflect our idea of ourselves.

What is in me is outside. Our inner world attracts the inner worlds of other people. Therefore, if everyone around you is feeling bad, everyone is sad, depressed, then the same thing happens inside you. And if you are surrounded by bright, kind, loving people, then you yourself are the same, everything is very simple! Work on yourself - both the world around you and people will change.

All this is written not in order to feel like the heroes of the occasion, but to feel how a woman can change everything on her own, if she wishes. And even betrayal - they are not pathology and gigolos, this is not a taboo. This is something that will help a woman to reconsider herself and eventually take something if the woman wants it.

You already understood that at the heart of all the lessons that men bring us is the return to our feminine nature. Because most women have such distortions (in fact, these are malicious viral programs transmitted to women from generation to generation): either we go into male energies, and any man next to such an "Iron Lady" lies down on the sofa, sits on his neck, inactive, drunken or starts to walk. Or we are in the position of a victim and sigh about our hard lot, and a man acts as a house tyrant or commits vile deeds.

In fact, it is through him that the Universe is trying to enlighten you. Through all these (and other) types of men, the Universe says: Become a woman! Learn to love yourself, start to appreciate life, because you did not come here to suffer! You are a Woman! Where is the fluidity of water and the acceptance of a man? Where is the flame of passion? ? Where is the warmth of the hearth? Where is reverence and respect for a man? Where is wisdom and become? Where is beauty, tenderness, lightness, joy? Where is Vera? …

But we do not hear this, we break off relations, we meet a new man, and there it is again the same thing, it happens even worse, and so on in a vicious circle. I will always be for the fact that changes must begin with the Woman. It all starts with her, since she is space. Before shifting responsibility to a man, look at yourself, he is just your reflection. The Internet is full of popular pages about how to manipulate a man and get gifts from him. I do not mean it. I'm talking about respect and love for oneself, about faith and acceptance of a man, about the joy and light of life!

Yes, it hurts, it hurts to change oneself, and it is even more painful to realize that "I" through my attitudes, viral programs only destroy my life … But, oddly enough, we need "Pain". I realized this when I started to grow and develop myself. And pain in a relationship is an integral companion of two adult partners who are building relationships and creating a family.

I know many men and women who cannot stand pain, and as soon as difficulties begin in a relationship, they cannot stand it and choose to end the relationship, and soon "jump" into a new relationship, thinking that everything will be different and not have to worry! But it was not there! At first, everything goes chocolate and beautiful (the stage of falling in love), and then the stage of quarrels, grinding, criticism, swearing invariably comes, and again comes the very pain from which they fled in the last union. So does it make sense to run in circles?

Always ask yourself the question: what does this situation teach me? Why did it happen? What do I need to endure for myself? Then you will not receive an outflow of energy, but will take away your resource.

So why do we run from pain or believe that it shouldn't be? Very often, to continue life, including the life of a family, you need to go through fire, water, and copper pipes, this will be a hardening for relationships and your growth. Don't be afraid of that. Any relationship is difficult. And if you start a relationship with the thought that you can finally relax and enjoy, then disappointment will be inevitable. You need to be prepared for what will be difficult, but to meet these difficulties as a chance to become closer, help each other, become comrades-in-arms.

A loved one is not someone you can enjoy 100% of the time with. A loved one is the one for whom you are ready to overcome difficulties and change. The one whom you accept completely, without a trace!