A Letter To Yourself From A Teenager

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A letter to yourself from a teenager

From the author: When I was writing this article, I had two goals.

First, to show the peculiarities of the attitude of a teenager at the age of 15, secondly, to demonstrate the technique of writing a letter to yourself in the past. First you need to immerse yourself in the age you want to turn to. Write a short essay from the 1st person. After that, from your present age, write yourself an answer. This technique is good in self-therapy of various problems, in this case, having their actualization in adolescence.

A letter to myself from myself

I am Anya, I am 15 years old. I live alone with my grandmother, she can barely walk with a stick. I love her very much, we are very close and I tell her a lot, although, of course, not everything. My parents live in another city, together with my sister. I am in 11th grade, teachers say about me that I am capable, but lazy. I like to learn, which often causes confusion among peers.

During my 15 years, I had to change 5 places of residence, and schools, respectively, due to the fact that my father is a military man, and we often move, change countries and cities. As a result, I had to learn how to quickly adapt to the surrounding circumstances and people. I'll tell you that it's not easy, but I succeed. There is a common phrase "Dinosaurs died out because they were leaning out." I learned, through trial and error, that it is best not to stick out, to be like everyone else. Then you will be quickly accepted into the new team, so it will be easier for you to live in the middle peasants. Studying is easy for me, but I don't put much effort into it. They don't like excellent students, so I have fours. School will end soon and I will need to go to college. My grandmother studied at the Leningrad State University and really wants me to have a higher education, and I do not see any alternatives for myself. But for admission we need money, and now there is simply no money in our family. And from this uncertainty it is hard on the soul. But I believe in my star, I know that everything will work out … or not.

In social terms, I am quite well off, in my opinion. I have girlfriends, I go to a disco on Saturdays, I meet a guy who is in love with me. I allow him to love me. My body matures, I'm interested in experimenting with lovemaking with my boyfriend, but we haven't had that yet. I think I'll make up my mind soon.

I love music, I play the piano, I go to the Variety Club, I’m a vocalist there. Our group has a bass guitar, a lead guitar, a drum kit and a synthesizer. Maybe I will be a singer, but they say that show business forces me to give up my moral ideals. Then it’s probably not for me. I consider myself pretty, my figure corresponds to fashionable parameters. But in sezha I have a bunch of complexes.

I do not have a computer, the TV shows 2 channels, but there is a huge grandmother's library of classical literature, so I really like to read. Writing about yourself is so unusual! As my favorite writer used to say, “You have to be too meanly in love with yourself to write about yourself without shame.” FM Dostoevsky. This sounds especially true when you are not yet an adult, but no longer a child. When loving yourself, looking at yourself is often accompanied by feelings of guilt and shame. When you are "underdeveloped", you also feel "underdeveloped": an underdeveloped body, an underdeveloped view of the world, misunderstanding this life. What kind of life is it, beautiful or scary? Much is seen in the extreme planes, either good or bad.

I like to think about all this, I like to observe people, real or heroes from books, for the relationship between them. I am interested in the topic of communication. Z. Freud's book "I and It" lies under my pillow. I do not know what I will become in the future, but in my diary I wrote that my future profession would be a flight attendant or a psychologist. Psychologist.:)

My dear Anya! Your letter evokes sympathy in me, but at the same time, great respect for your courage to express what is in your heart. When feelings are on paper, they take on outlines, colors, names. Feelings become tangible and then transformations are already possible, a "handle" appears at the suitcase, and it becomes easier to carry, move, or even get rid of the old junk altogether. Therefore, it's great that you wrote to me!

Anya, I perfectly remember my "under" period, as you called it. Indeed, adolescence is a transitional time from childhood to adolescence, adulthood. Often adults cannot rebuild their attitude towards children who have already grown, both physically and psychologically. And in communication, sometimes, they devalue age-related achievements, which is very painful for the "naked", vulnerable self-esteem of a teenager. Therefore, Anya, there is a feeling of "under". Believe me, many problems in life arise from this feeling, it is also characteristic of adults. People with low self-esteem experience discomfort, but they cope with this unpleasant condition in different ways.

Some are looking for a source of self-dislike within their own personality, try to develop the necessary qualities in themselves, improve themselves - there is an energy of positive changes in oneself. In this case, the feeling of "not enough" "is beneficial, pushes them on the path of self-development and self-actualization.

But there are also those who assert themselves at the expense of humiliating others. This path, although it brings satisfaction, but it is temporary, and, ultimately, turns into destructive consequences for such a person.

Which path you choose is up to you. Anyway, growing up happens only once, and, you know, knowing yourself can be very interesting. You realize that there is a whole universe inside you, concealing in itself huge, limitless possibilities, you will learn to cope with all this. You will gain an inner fulcrum, and then you will cease to be afraid of being the best, they are afraid to "stick out", you will stop comparing yourself with others (only with your former self).

Anya, this will come, but with time. There will be many more ups and downs in your life. You are great, you believe in your star, do not lose this faith, be happy!