2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In yesterday's work with a client, I felt like a surgeon)) A surgeon who performs a very delicate and delicate operation))
In psychology, there is such a thing as separation. This is the psychological separation of oneself from the parental figure / exit from the role of the child.
Merging with the mother on a psychological level gives security, even if this mother was “bad”. After all, in fact, separation from the mother is the loss of the dream of "paradise", in which it is warm, light, serene and calm …
Symbolically, the "mother's womb" is the place where there is protection and safety. And yet it is a shelter from problems …
Coming out of the shelter (from the "cozy cave") into living life, we find ourselves in the open! Where the winds blow, where there is a lot of air and freedom, but..! There is no guarantee of safety here
But here there is freedom and a real interesting life
And, on the one hand, Freedom and Adulthood beckon. And, on the other hand, they are sooo scary … Really ?! 😉
… When the process of separation from parents takes place, we change our identity, perception of ourselves and the world … This is also why this process is so painful.
Separation is always about loss … And here, of course, there is a lot of sadness … After all, loss (even important and necessary for life!) Always brings pain.
In the process of separation, we cry over the loss of our identity as a child.
At the same time, our inner living children's part stays with us! So don't worry - no one will take it away from you! We need a spontaneous and playful childish part like air !!!!
In the process of separation, we say goodbye to our infantile desires for a "serene paradise". About the fact that someone will come and cover us with their big shoulder from anxiety …
We let go of the illusory dream of a big parental figure, next to whom we will always feel safe and that anxiety will never enter our life …
And when we let go of this illusion (and this is sooooo difficult) - we begin to learn to rely on ourselves!
This is the real initiation of Growing up …
And now in our life we begin to play a different role, but there is no return to the old one! Well … because these are the laws of evolution))
And let the "operation" to separate oneself be very difficult and painful, but it is needed to LIVE YOUR COOL CAIFE ADULT LIFE !!!!!! 🔥
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