2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The client came from another city. Married for 10 years, the child is 7 years old. Six months ago, I learned that her husband was cheating on her. Now she does not live with her husband. She has a bunch of questions. Why did it happen? What is it for me? How to live if you have been betrayed? Will it be the same as before? Can we go further together hand in hand? Should I get a divorce? Or stay together for the sake of the child? How do I know how she will be better. I have no ready answers. I can only help her find her answers.
From those present, the client chooses substitutes for herself, her husband and her husband's mistress (Alena). The figure of the husband immediately departs to the far end of the hall. The figures of the client and the mistress look at each other. “This is my husband,” the mistress begins. "Why all of a sudden? This is my husband!" - does not lag behind the deputy client. I ask the client if the mistress is married. No, she is not married, she has never been. I ask my mistress where her husband is. She looks around in confusion. I point out to her the figure of the client's husband. The mistress shakes her head, no, not him. I choose a man from the audience and make him the figure of this woman's husband. She screams - "This is my husband!" - but, no longer addressing the client. "Who are you saying this to? Your husband?" - I clarify. "No. I'm telling this to a woman." I deliver the figure of the woman to whom these words are addressed. The picture repeats itself, two women quarrel over a man, each screaming that he is her husband. At the same time, the figure of the client does not go far, she stands and looks at this bazaar. Their "common" husband smiles, he is clearly pleased to feel like a prize. I turn to the client for clarification - "Does it remind you of something? What are the two wives? Where are they from?" The client thinks for a moment - "My grandfather had two wives. Only they have never met in life, the first one died early." I put things in order, put the figures according to the clan hierarchy - first the first wife, then the husband, then the second wife. The deputy husband repeats after me the permissive phrase - "You are my first wife. This is your place. You will always be my first wife." Then addressing the second wife - "This is my first wife (pointing to the first). And you are my second wife. You are the second, this is your place." The second wife is in no hurry to agree. Then I put the figures of their children. The face of the second wife brightens, she hugs the children and smiles. The husband tells her again - "You are my second wife, and this is my first wife." The second nods her head, agrees. The first wife smiles at her. But the client's figure is no longer holding back and stamping her foot - "I do not agree!" I ask her to bow to the first wife. "Bow down ?! Why should this suddenly? Let's bow to all Alains now!" I give the permissive phrase, the figure of the client repeats after me, "Thank you for making room for my grandmother." After the phrase, the client's deputy bows to the figure of the first wife. As she bows, I hear her deep breaths. She straightens up already with a calm, and I would even say with a calm expression on her face. I don't know if my grandfather's two wives met during their lifetime. Maybe yes. Grandchildren are not supposed to know everything:-)
The client continues to live with her husband. They got married and gave birth to their second child.
Is it always necessary to forgive treason? I dont know. I have no ready answers. I can only help find your answers.
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