2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When she was a little girl, she dreamed of playing the piano.
She wanted it so badly that she constantly imagined herself sitting at the instrument and playing beautiful melodies, and in the hall the listeners applauded her and shouted: "Well done! For an encore! For an encore!" And she again, played and played everything …
But, unfortunately, in the small village where she lived, there was never a music school, and not only a school - even a music club. And even if her parents agreed to take her to the regional center, 40 km away from home, to classes, she probably would never have bought a piano - it's so expensive, and where can I get it in this village …
She understood all this and did not even stutter about her dreams, and this made her more and more sad. She hated her life and her small village, and promised herself that as soon as she could, she would immediately leave here for the big city! And also, her children will have everything, everything they want! And she will give them the opportunity to study in all circles …
Many years later, she really left for a big city - she kept her promise to herself. And a couple of years later, her daughter was born (let's call her Katya).
Katya grew up as a calm and obedient girl, she loved and obeyed her parents, her mother doted on her, allowed and bought everything she could …
At the age of 6, my mother decided to send Katya to a music school (“I couldn't, so let my child learn,” she thought). At first, Katenka really liked the lessons, she was interested in playing the piano, comprehending musical literacy, and she did it with pleasure. Mom couldn't get enough of …
At the age of 8, Katya was bought a piano, and she began to study at home, and her mother was so carried away by the control and accompaniment of classes that Katya began to like them less and less … but she loved her mother very much and did not want to upset her, so she continued to study. Years passed …
In an ordinary school, Katyusha studied very well, but most of all she liked to draw, she even participated in the drawing Olympiad and took the 3rd place in the city there. At that moment she realized that she would very much like to learn how to draw professionally, she had figurative thinking and a perfectly developed imagination and she would like to be able to transfer all this in paints to paper … but what about music? After all, she took up all her free time (those who studied at a music school know: 2 times a week a specialty, 1 time a week solfeggio, 1 time a musical literature, 1 time a choir and 2 times a week accompaniment + regular lessons at home). You can't quit! Mom will be very upset, because so much time and money has been invested and so much effort, and the piano has been bought … it is a pity for mom (…
By the age of 12, Katya understood for sure that she was not a musician and that nothing good would come of it. She already simply hates music and music school, and everything connected with it … but still wanted to draw … and dared to tell her parents about her desire. The parents, oddly enough, supported, but since the music school was not even supposed to quit (and Katya did not mention this either), they decided that the art school would be too much, so they offered her to study in an art studio not far from home
(Mom remembered that she promised to support all the children's endeavors and give them the opportunity to study wherever they want …)
Katya was happy! "It's okay, let there be music, I'll hold out somehow, but the dream of drawing will finally come true!" But, as you know, children are very impressionable and vulnerable, especially at the very beginning of adolescence. Children's psyche is far from perfect and every little thing is perceived by children as a global problem of a world scale, and especially in this tender, transitional age. So it happened with our Katya. She was not accepted into an art studio, she did not pass the competition (although she did not draw very badly), but the requirements were strict. They explained to her what had been done wrong, offered to come to the exam next year … but she took this failure so close to her heart that she never sat down to draw again …
What about music, you ask?
Katya hated music even more: because of her, she did not go to art school, because of her she could not pass the exam in the art circle, because of her there is absolutely no time to draw …
Katya dropped out of music school a few months before the final exams, with a huge scandal in her family and reproaches that so much time and money was spent on her, and she is ungrateful mediocrity …
And she never sat down at the piano either …
Here is such a story … and your task, dear parents, is to draw the right conclusions from it and not ruin the talents of your children!
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