Mother's Face Has Financial Success

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Woman and financial success is not just a complex topic, but rather a multifaceted one. Working with clients on the issue of material well-being, one has to look for roots in the relationship with the mother, raise issues of trust, safety, self-esteem and the ability to receive benefits and survive.

It may seem surprising to the new generation, but in the 19th century, “going to the service” for a lady was considered a shame, and just a few decades ago, in the 20th century, a career and high earnings were the prerogative of the male part of society. Even such an argument existed: why promote an employee with a child, if she now and then goes on sick leave, why take young people if they go on maternity leave? More often than not, a woman, after marriage, finds herself bound by the need to take care of children. But the situation is gradually changing, today men also take sick leave for childcare and even arrange maternity leave - if the spouse earns more.

Mother's power and helplessness

Be that as it may, but our society still remains largely patriarchal, where a woman is dependent on a man. It is still believed that a man should earn more and support his family. Often such stereotypes destroy families where a woman has managed to reach a high level of income. Fearing losing a relationship with her husband, a woman gives up income, career and other opportunities to increase her wealth. The emerging child, on the one hand, raises the mother to the absolute height of power, since he is not able to survive without her. But on the other hand, it devalues a woman, excluding her from the life of society. And if the child is a girl, then growing up, she can begin to associate herself with her mother and be ashamed of her financial success, a successful career, which her mother was deprived of, forced to devote herself to taking care of the family.

Often grown-up daughters are fully aware, although not always ready to admit, the envy on the part of the mother. To localize the problem, they deliberately keep silent about their successes, sabotage their careers, or simply do not allow themselves to strive for something greater. Moreover, this "time bomb" is laid even in childhood, when the girl, as she grows up, feels the growing emotional emptiness of her mother and it seems to her that it is she who is the reason why her mother is forced to put up with her helplessness. But this is not the case! This pain was inherent in the woman long before her daughter appeared in her life, but, the worst thing, she is able to pass it on to the next generation and so on ad infinitum …

Causes and Effects

Alas, very often mothers tend to blame their children for their financial insolvency. Some in plain text (“I had a brilliant career, but I gave it up for the sake of my family, for the sake of you!”), Some silently but expressively make it clear that they have to deny themselves a lot, spending money on the needs of their daughter. And it is very difficult to do something about it, because not the daughter, but the mother should cope with the problem. She must find the strength to survive the pain inherent in childhood and become a new personality. Destroying the daughter's career will not be a cure, but the help of a psychologist will come in handy, since maternal envy is quite capable of starting a chain reaction, forcing the daughter to project the mother's life onto herself.

It is easy to change the situation only at first glance, but practically without the help of a specialist it is impossible, because:

• no matter how the child tried, he could not save his mother from the pain of unfulfillment
• the most important person - mother, took her daughter for the cause of her problems and reflexively tried to get rid of her as a source of difficulties, was often cruel and did not understand that this perception was wrong
• and the daughter saw the mother's suffering due to loneliness and unrealized opportunities, and, although she did not realize the reason, it broke her heart
• daughter used to feel guilty about her mother's failed career
• it is very difficult in the current situation to explain to the mother that the daughter's financial, career and personal successes are part of life, and not the desire to prove the mother's failure and infringe on her pride

As a result - the inability to love your inner "I" … And the ability to accept and endure your pain is just a manifestation of love for yourself, the first, but such an important step towards taking care of your inner world. The mourned pain opens the way to freedom, including financial and material freedom.

How to decide to surpass your mom

In many books, you can read the phrase: "the student has surpassed the teacher" - this is considered normal, including, testifies to the success of the teacher, who managed to bring up the best master. But in relations with the mother, this logic, for some reason, does not always work. Sometimes it takes remarkable willpower to surpass the mother not only in financial, career, social success, but also in terms of personal development. Improving consciousness, kindness, understanding, creating results regardless of childhood trauma - this is what it means to become a mature person.

Growing up, many girls carry the childhood pain of rejection by their mother like shackles. Every step towards success and financial well-being comes with incredible difficulty. To be free, you need to accept and experience this pain. But reaching a new level of development does not mean that the mother will understand and accept her daughter. The matter is further complicated by the mother's behavior: often feeling envy of her daughter, albeit unconsciously, she seeks to completely control the situation, criticizes expenses, behavior, and often contradicts herself. And the daughter falls into a psychological trap, believing that if she remains a "little girl", this will allow her mother to realize her feelings and, finally, to love her daughter. However, this will never happen, the situation will only get worse over the years, the suffering caused by mutual psychological torture will accumulate.

Fight and love

We often hear: “we must fight for a place in the sun”. And if the daughter's financial well-being exceeds that of the mother's, this is perceived as something undeserved, so often children prefer to hide their true financial situation or do their best to help their mother, sometimes giving their money to the detriment of their interests. However, material income is not at all related to the emotional saturation of the relationship, because real wealth is inside.

It is very difficult to achieve harmony alone, experiencing external pressure from circumstances and loved ones. Therefore, the help of a psychologist is needed.

Overcoming our pain, we achieve true harmony between the outer and inner worlds, discover hidden talents and abilities, and gain strength to realize opportunities. First, the soul, and gradually the whole life becomes filled with light, meaning, we seem to gain access to our inner source of energy. And the more fully we comprehend ourselves, we gain inner wealth, the wider we open the doors to external prosperity, because the lack of financial freedom is not the disease itself, but its symptom, which will disappear after the healing of that very mother's trauma. Only in this way can you achieve inner freedom and a sense of security, which will allow a woman to be realized as a leader.

After completing the program, you will no longer need to oppose yourself to the most important person in life. Gradually, a new essence develops in consciousness - an "inner mother", ready to take care and love both herself and loved ones, and most importantly - to allow her to feel inner security. Having ceased to be afraid of losing our vital basis, we can finally plunge into the exploration of new perspectives, start dreaming and make our dreams come true.