19 Rules Of Parenting From Claude Steiner

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19 rules of parenting from Claude Steiner (Claude Steiner). Fascinated by Berne's theory of life scenarios, especially No Love scenarios, Claude developed his Stroke Saving theory and was awarded the 1980 Eric Berne Prize for it.

Do not give birth to a child for whom you do not guarantee 18 years of care and protection;

If you did give birth, shorten the time when he needs you, allowing him to achieve autonomy as quickly as possible;

The main goal of upbringing is to give the child freedom to develop intimacy, awareness and spontaneity;

No other goals (discipline, manners, self-control) are placed above autonomy, even if it is important for the parents;

Intimacy is destroyed by the economy of stroking;

Do not interfere with the full and honest expression of your love for the child;

Encourage your child to ask, give, take strokes, and brag;

Awareness is destroyed by devaluation. Do not discount the rational thinking, feelings and intuition of children;

Teach the children to take facts into account and respond to the child's requests to take his facts into account, addressed to you;

Don't lie to children explicitly, by default;

If you decide to hide the truth, explain why. (For example, "I won't tell you what's going on because it hurts me to talk about it.");

Spontaneity is destroyed by the rules of using the body;

Do not regulate children's body movement, gaze, hearing, touch, unless it compromises their safety and endangers them. In this case, use collaboration;

Do not take the advice of doctors and teachers seriously - they may be wrong;

Don't insult, attack, or invade the shrine of the child's body. If you did, apologize completely and immediately;

Be responsible for your actions and do not repeat those that you yourself do not approve of;

Don't rescue or chase the child;

Don't do what you don't want to do for your child. If you have done so, do not confuse your mistake with the subsequent stalking of the child;

Give your child a chance to take care of themselves before helping.