Life-changing Thought. Why Don't Some Affirmations Work?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How much has already been said about positive thinking. Films about affirmations have been made, books have been written. The internet is full of instructions for dealing with the future. And sometimes it seems that the materialization of thoughts is a magical process, something akin to witchcraft and magic. Only some for some reason succeed, while others “and things are still there”: no affirmations work, no matter how hard a person tries. But why is there so much evidence and evidence that the technique of affirmations, visualizations of the future, still works for some people? And sometimes it happens for the same person, one affirmation worked, and the other did not. Let's talk about this.

In fact, there is no ritual magic here, everything can be scientifically justified

First, I'll tell you how my thought changed my life to be clearer. Sometime long ago in 1998, experiencing a crisis of thirty years, I started writing poetry. They were very simple and straightforward. And of course, I understood that not everything was okay with them, but I continued to pour my heart out on paper every day. At that time I did not work anywhere, I was a housewife for many years and I had a very narrow social circle. I was almost isolated from society. And at some point a thought struck me: “I want my poems to become lyrics. I want famous singers of Ukraine to perform my songs”. The thought was so clear and clear that I even saw myself ascending the steps to the stage as the author to present the award. Everything in this thought was detailed, even the country where I planned to become a songwriter. Every day, doing household chores, I mentally returned to this idea. And I liked her so much that I wrote on my pillow with a pen: "I want to become an author of famous songs." Then I wrote this wish on a piece of paper and put it under the pillow. During the day I went about my business, but every night before going to bed I took out the coveted piece of paper and read these words. She put them under the pillow again and fell asleep with a smile on her lips. At that time, I did not know anything about affirmations, I did not watch the movie "The Secret". I just did what the voice of my soul told me. So, day after day, I wrote poetry and read my desire on a piece of paper, and soon something pushed me and I began to look for someone to show my work. My only friend admired my poems and I told her about my dream. At that time, I was not yet an active user of the Internet and I do not remember how I got hold of the phones of production centers and composers and I began to call there and show my poems there. Sometimes I had to wait 5 hours to give a few sheets of my texts to at least someone who could help me. But… Failure after failure: “It doesn't suit us. You have poems, not lyrics for songs. I was desperate, but I didn't stop writing poetry every day. After a couple of years of my ordeal, my friend introduced me to the composer Igor Balan. I gave him a pack of my texts, with almost no hope of luck. He told me the same thing as the others: "It is unlikely that these lyrics can be songs, but I will look and try to write music." He wrote in 2000 the song "City of Green" went with it to all radio stations and as one all radio stations refused to take this song into rotation. I didn't like it. Soon Victor Pavlik came to visit the composer - a famous Ukrainian singer and he really liked the song. He made a hit out of her. And in 2005 I climbed the steps to the stage of the Palace "Ukraine" for the presentation of the award "Winner Shlyager of the Year 2005".

This is how my dream came true.

But what I want to say is that my dream forced me every day to take at least one step towards its fulfillment. And I put a lot of my energy into this and did not stop believing in my talent, although the whole society did not agree with me.

I believed in affirmations and began to practice them with visualizations. Something turned out very quickly, but something to this day I have not succeeded.

And I wondered: why is that? In the process of working on myself, I realized that some of my desires are actually blocked by some kind of resistance within myself. And I began to look for what kind of resistance. There were several reasons. These resistances were nothing more than unconscious feelings of Shame, Fear and Guilt.

For example, for a long time, the fear of intimacy prevented me from meeting the very man with whom I could be paired. I really wanted to, but as soon as they made me an offer, I quickly found a bunch of reasons to refuse. Or here's another. When I was 16, I dreamed of being a psychiatrist. I reread all the psychiatric literature in the house. For some reason, my father got scared and hid the entire medical library from me, telling me harshly: "To psychiatry only through my corpse." I fell into a sense of guilt and acquired the wrong profession that I dreamed of. But when my father died in 2003, a couple of months later I was already studying to be a psychologist. Feelings of guilt and duty to my father blocked the energy of desire. Many of my desires were blocked by the fear of shame or avoidance of shame that things would not work out and I would fail the important work of my life. But when, as in the example with the songs, I was free from these internal blockages, then everything turned out exactly as I imagined it.

So there is no magic in affirmations, there is nothing complicated there either: you just want something very strongly and every day you take at least one step towards fulfilling your desire. But if the affirmation doesn't work, look for Fear, Shame and Guilt … And sometimes Anger and Sadness.. Resistance is an unconscious feeling. And as soon as you can bring it into the zone of awareness, the world will shine with an abundance of possibilities.

And a little more about affirmations.

There are two types of prayer: request prayer and confirmation prayer. Affirmation can rightfully be attributed to the prayer of the statement: "It will be as I want." In prayer, asking, everything does not depend on you, and you can stay idle and wait and ask someone stronger for help. In prayer-affirmation, everything depends only on you and you act. And this is much stronger.

May all your wishes come true.