Fear Of Age. Life After 40

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

We often came across articles about the imminent future, in which we are awaited by widespread computerization, chips built into the brain with a search base, projection screens, virtual reality with real sensations, internal organs printed on a printer, grown new healthy cells, immortality and eternal youth. By the way, as they say, some innovations will appear in the next five years, but it is logical that the consciousness of people also presupposes very global changes.

In this article I would like to touch upon a very simple and at the same time exciting issue of age. Sometimes the number in the passport prevents us from living, starting from the very youth it is an incredible brake and a limiting frame. For example, precocious adolescents who are waiting for a certain age to be allowed to marry (before the revolution, they were married from the age of 12, my great-grandmother got married at 14). Further, such wunderkinds are already being born who can officially start working from ten years old, by the way, education will also change, Finland, which has canceled academic subjects, is an indicator of this. If we touch upon the framework "after thirty", then in the absence of many restrictions, how many people would be more psychologically healthy and happy than now!

Women begin to stress after 32-35 - get married, rather get married, otherwise they will not take it later, after 35-37 it is not so easy to get a high-paying job, about 40 and then I generally keep quiet. However, times are changing, opportunities are emerging, some women in 50 look 35 and are full of energy. Medicine and cosmetology are already showing the wonders of natural beauty, plus a healthy lifestyle. And various physical activities plus good genetics and without the intervention of medicine give excellent results and youthfulness. In addition, I also believe in the manifestation of the internal through the external, that we radiate - that is what we receive! Time changes, we change and without noticing it ourselves, we work miracles and amaze those around us with our appearance, our knowledge, our victories and discoveries. However, a hated passport can ruin the life of even the most self-confident person, as soon as he has to face an unequal battle with the system or with a partner who thinks in stereotypes.

The story is about a girl who, according to external data, simply cannot be called a woman, although she is already 45, and her son is 24 years old and she has a granddaughter. She came to me for a consultation, dressed in a youthful manner (beautiful figure, perky eyes), in appearance I gave her no more than 33 years old. When we started talking, I burst into tears. The fact is that for five years (after the divorce) she has dreamed of a relationship, creating a new family, but all her attempts were unsuccessful. When she met men, she honestly confessed on the first or second date how old she was, and saw how the attitude towards her changed dramatically, admiration was replaced by undisguised disappointment. She did not have more than two dates, even with her male peers, 43-45 years old. She was rejected every now and then because of some number, which is registered in the passport and which was imprinted in the minds of the men around her. Out of despair, she was going to move to the village to breed chickens and forget about relationships, and about men in general, although for some time she was even ready to marry a guy much younger than her, moreover, young men like her to this day! By the way, men in their 30s and 35s are bolder than 40 and they are not so scared by the age of their chosen one. But, as it turned out, in her practice there were several painful stories: in one of them the mother of a young man rebelled, in the second the guy said that he needed three children and she would not be able to give birth to them, that she would not have enough time or strength (it is surprising, of course, that the man was looking for a biofactory for the reproduction of offspring, and not his beloved wife, but that's another story). I'm sure some readers may recommend her to marry a 55-65-year-old man, at this age they gladly (especially foreigners) take 40-plus women in a pair. Yes, no question, she is ready for such a marriage, provided that this man will be just as youthful in his 60s and as healthy, cheerful as she, alas, she was not lucky enough to meet such. By the way, for some reason men, in most cases, are tuned in to a partner who is superior to him in his youth and health (strange, but true). Here is such a story, and it is impossible to get out of this madness until we start to BELIEVE OUR EYES AND HEART, and not papers, which in the near future will disappear altogether in the world of digital technologies!

There is a second story: there was a beautiful girl who, at 45, decided that she was 32, completely changed her environment, went to live abroad, successfully married. I don’t know how she managed to change the number in her passport (it’s a crime!), However, her husband still thinks that she is his age, although the difference between them is 13 years, but none of her new friends and relatives even guess about it. You say children, biological age, etc., with this, too, everything is super - she gave birth to her first child at 47 years old (real age), a healthy girl and doctors, by the way, also did not bother her with all sorts of worries and checks, because they saw the figure - “34 , For European women in childbirth, this is not an alarming age for a long time. What does this story lead to, to the fact that when people stop limiting themselves and others with empty fears associated with a paper figure, life becomes much easier and more fun, new opportunities and strengths appear for the implementation of plans.

The topic of age applies, of course, to men, but it affects women more painfully, especially in the issue of creating relationships and families. I am glad that recently, along with unequal marriages, where men are much older, demonstrative (in the good sense of the word) marriages appear more and more often, where women are much older and men are happy, successful with them. Moreover, you won't surprise anyone with children born to women at the age of 45-49, and even at 60 they perform in vitro fertilization and also successfully give birth. The world is changing, it's time to change attitudes, abandon the far-fetched restrictions!

We are all different, someone takes good care of our health and at 102, like the famous grandmother Dagni Karlsson from Sweden, becomes a blogger or grandfather at 96 as a DJ, and someone already at 30 destroyed himself with alcohol, smoking, unhealthy diet and will live up to 40-50, if it does not change its mind and does not change. This also applies to appearance - if a person loves himself, takes care of himself, then youth will last exactly until the time when the long-awaited anti-aging pills are invented and that's it - goodbye passport! Based on all that has been described, I propose not to wait for two thousand and eleven, but to drop fears right now and start living to the fullest, regardless of whether you are 20, 40 or 60!