2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I want to share with the reader an approximate scheme of psychological work with a married couple, dedicated to a fundamental, important topic -
"Languages of love - we clarify, we learn, we speak."
I.
You can start a joint dialogue like this …
- Let's think about very important, essential things of partnership, marital relations: for what (for receiving what values) do people go into love relationships? The answers will be something like this: for warmth, acceptance and love.
II.
We continue the dialogue with a new thesis …
But each of us often understands warmth, acceptance and love in his own way … Let's find out what you and your partner put into these concepts and how much does your manifestation (for each separate term) correspond to your partner's expectations?
III.
Let's start with the main term for female-male relationships - "love". And in order to understand what this concept means in the personal language of each of you, we will answer this question:
- What exactly should your spouse (or spouse) do so that you understand that he (she) really loves you very much?
The spouses answer …
We compare. Analyzing. We fix the difference.
And the continuation of the general discussion …
IV.
Let's expand our understanding of love language and clarify one more concept - "acceptance" …
- What exactly should your spouse (or spouse) do to make you feel truly accepted, protected? Explain in more detail!
The spouses answer …
We compare. Analyzing. We fix the difference.
At the end, we proceed to one more analysis …
V.
And now let's deal with the concept of "warmth" …
- What exactly should a spouse (or spouse) do to make you feel warmed and supported? Try to explain …
The spouses answer …
We compare. Analyzing. We fix the difference.
Vi.
By completing these tasks, the partners understand how often I perceive the same concepts in different ways and how they should act in order to explain themselves in the same language.
Vii.
And you can consolidate the result obtained in the form of the following useful exercise …
We write out personal Dictionaries of happy, partner terms for each other. Or Recipes for Love. For example…
Olga's dictionary (recipe) (prescriptions for Ilya).
1. I understand (see, read) your love, when during the day you inquire about my health.
2. I understand your love when during the week you spoil me with small surprises.
3. I understand your love when you spend the weekend with me.
Etc. Based on Olga's love language.
Ilya, having received his wife's dictionary (recipe), tries to fulfill it until the next session, recording his observations.
Ilya's Dictionary (Recipe) (prescription for Olga).
1. I understand (see, read) your love when you meet me from work.
2. I understand your love when you feed me a delicious, homemade dinner.
3. I understand your love when you more often respond to my desire for intimacy.
Etc. Based on the language of Ilya's love.
Olga, having received her husband's dictionary (or recipe), tries to fulfill the instructions until the next session, recording her observations.
Thus, partners not only understand each other's love language, but also learn to speak it, thereby improving the general love relationship. An extremely useful topic in marriage therapy. Defining! The main! Hopefully the discussion outline and the final assignment will be helpful to many. If you liked the article, I am grateful in advance for your support!
Recommended:
"How To Learn To Get Up Earlier, READ MORE AND LEARN LANGUAGES ". Belle COOPER Life Coach Tips
Usually, when planning to change our life for the better, we choose Monday as the starting point. And many even manage this day to quit smoking, play sports or stop abusing coffee. But very often everything ends on Monday … Therefore, we want to share with you a post by freelancer and life coach Belle Cooper, in which she shares her thoughts on this matter.
If You Want To Be Happy - Learn The Languages of Love
The book "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman has aroused my interest for a long time, but I managed to read it quite recently. To be honest, I wished I had done it earlier. But, as they say, for all the time, which means that I need such information right now.
How To Stop Getting Hung Up On Marriage, Marriage, Marriage? Roots And Solution. Psychology Of Personality
Quite often, this question is of interest to young people (both girls and boys). Will I have a family? Will I meet exactly the girl (man) that I like? Such experiences are quite natural! But how to let go of the marriage situation and stop thinking about possible loneliness?
Useful Matrimonial Activity "Languages of Love - Demonstrating, Learning, Speaking"
The game arose out of a recent session, part of which focused on finding solutions to one married couple's unsatisfactory relationship. Without going into details, I will outline the essence of the problem under study: the spouses vainly expected from each other what they did not (for reasons unclear to them) stubbornly receive.
Types Of Love And Their Difference: Passion, Falling In Love, Love Addiction, Absolute, Mature Love
Love … A word familiar from childhood. Everyone understands that when you are loved is good, but when you are deprived of love, it is bad. Only everyone understands it in their own way. Often this word is used to refer to something that turns out to be not quite love or not love at all.
