2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The game arose out of a recent session, part of which focused on finding solutions to one married couple's unsatisfactory relationship.
Without going into details, I will outline the essence of the problem under study: the spouses vainly expected from each other what they did not (for reasons unclear to them) stubbornly receive.
According to the information provided, it became clear: the matter is not in the negligence of the participants in the relationship, but in the different (incomprehensible for the second partner) mental expectations of the couple. That is, each, relying on his own love language, remained for the other - an alien internal foreigner.
This is how this creative task was born, received by the spouses at home.
Languages of love - demonstrating, studying, communicating
1. The task is allocated two days off - Saturday and Sunday.
2. Saturday is divided into equal parts.
3. In the first half of Saturday, the husband "speaks" to his wife in the "love, inner language" he knows, demonstrating his grammar, features, and nuances to his wife.
In a specific case, these are: compliments, affection, attention, recognition, praise - all that the spouse is so piercingly lacking.
The wife carefully examines the accents of this language, mastering for the future. So she should treat her husband in the future!
4. In the afternoon, the spouses change positions: now the wife clearly communicates the grammar and meanings of her language to her husband.
In a specific case, these are: respectful care, help with household chores, expressions of acceptance and support. What a woman needs so badly and seriously.
The husband absorbs this important knowledge, armed with concrete experience. In this language he will speak with his wife in the future!
In this way, spouses teach each other their love language
5. Over the next Sunday, the spouses, strengthening the previously acquired knowledge, demonstrate it in practice, taking into account the expectations of each other.
The wife tries to be affectionate, warm. The husband is attentive and included.
It is advisable to repeat the exercise, giving it one more weekend.
Through this practice, spouses learn to listen, hear, understand and take into account each other's needs and interests.
This simple diplomatic assignment will teach the spouses harmonious, friendly communication - respectful, kind and happy. Languages are mastered - knowledge is realized - partners are successfully interacting! Good luck, beloved and loving spouses!
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