My Husband Is Cheating, But I Have Nowhere To Go, I Endure

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I know many women dream of successfully getting married and not working. Some people succeed in this and somehow they feel happy, but in most cases the hour X comes when the whole idyll collapses and she is left without housing, money, profession and with a child in her arms.

It is good if the husband was decent, changed or bought housing for his ex-wife and voluntarily pays alimony, but this does not happen so often. Sometimes it happens like this: a couple lives in a civil marriage, or the official husband has his own business, which, in the event of a divorce, he seeks to quickly re-register to someone else, including housing. There are many cases when a man buys an apartment, or takes out a mortgage and formalizes it for his parents. And the woman makes repairs in it with her own money. In the event of a divorce, the renovated apartment goes to his parents, and the woman remains on the street, without work, profession, and often without the opportunity to get any job, due to the fact that the children are small. Some women, because they have nowhere to go, tolerate a tyrant's husband, or a cheating husband who openly cheats, taking advantage of her helplessness.

In such situations, women find themselves who naively relied on fate, on love, on God, on a husband, on the law, on anyone, but not on themselves.

The most wounded period for a woman is pregnancy, and for the next few years, until the child goes to kindergarten, if this is one child, and if the next is born soon, then it turns into a non-vylyaznaya "fairy tale". It will be good if grandparents come to the rescue, who can take over the children. For men, this period is, on the one hand, difficult, from a financial point of view and in terms of the severity of responsibility, and on the other hand, the most "happy", because his wife is in a dependent position and his hands are untied, he can afford without harm and risk some tricks and frivolity.

Men who are more spiritual, more adequate, understand the difficulties of a woman, and they support her in everything, even if there is some kind of cooling to her, and this becomes inevitable, maybe the wife is at home all the time, and she starts to bore him, maybe the elastic band has nowhere to pull off.. Read about the rubber band effect here. And who is more primitive, I'm not afraid of this word, look down, make the most of this situation in order to mock a woman, to show who is the boss in the house.

Therefore, I highly recommend women not to look for oligarchs, because they have money for lawyers who can easily cheat you, look for decent people first of all, ask them about their past relationships, how they interact with ex-wives, children, do they pay alimony, do they help to get settled in life. It is very important how they behave with them, with a 99% probability they will behave this way with you. Do not hesitate to openly ask about it, usually they do not lie, but tell the truth.

I remember being courted by one "cowboy" who proudly declared that his children live well, grow up, his ex-wife is smart, takes good care of them, and he does not give them a penny and, moreover, he goes to her to borrow.. In general, in this short conversation, everything became clear what kind of person he was, and what fate awaited him.

Solve the issue of housing, make every effort to have it, your own, you have. If you are the lover and wife of an oligarch, save money for a rainy day, buy something, even a room. Parents, instead of playing a magnificent wedding for their daughter, buy her a house, it will become a fulcrum for her during times of difficulties, and it can always be rented out.

You should not jump out early to get married, without having received an education and without working, immediately go on maternity leave, you lose your charm very quickly, and men are interested in those women who can fight them back, but what will you rest against? on "yazhmat" ?! Will not work..

Get a profession, it will be like an internal core for you, and it may not necessarily be some kind of institute, it can be online courses, sewing and sewing courses, nail extension or blogging. Do what your heart is in and what you do well.

Have your own money so that in case of a domestic scandal you can slam the door and leave, without your own money you cannot even call a taxi.

Do not put eggs in one basket, let there be many of them (baskets), men very clearly feel this moment and will no longer be able to manipulate you.

They can rent a house for you during the breakup, divorce, buy food, but still you will be dependent on them. While they will drive around with a new passion, you will sit like a mouse, fearing not to receive a new portion of money, thus you will not get a foothold and will not be able to turn the tide and remain in the role of a victim. That is, sell your soul, freedom, happy life, in exchange for symbolic money. Therefore, I do not see the benefits of the role of a kept woman, there seems to be material, but there is no spiritual.

I suspect that some men do not allow women to work, have children, only to "weaken" a woman through them, to bring her to her knees. Many women write their stories to me: he loved me so much, really wanted a child, but as soon as I got pregnant, he went on a spree and still walks, and he doesn't need a child, but I have nowhere to go.. Why did I want a child from then ?! Children for them are a kind of weapon against the inner core of a woman.

So women, be vigilant, do not take men at their word, learn to read their motives between the lines, strengthen yourself in all possible ways.

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