2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Generalized client cases:
1. The guy is 35 years old, lives with his parents. No relationship
"I really want a relationship, but … I'm not ready yet …"
"Why?"
“No where to live…. No car…. Low salary…. The car is old … And I didn’t have a relationship … I’m depressed … I don’t like anyone … Girls only need the rich … All girls need an apartment … Who needs me? (Underline whatever applicable;)
2. Girl 24 years old, married, has a stable job
"I have a hobby, I really like drawing and creativity, I want to organize a center."
"Excellent! Are you already doing something for this?"
"No. What if it doesn't work?"
"You can start small …"
"I have no time … What if no one comes? … Nobody supports me …"
3. A 36-year-old girl, no relationship, “everyone is leaving”
"Do you communicate, meet men?"
"And where? Online Dating?"
"You can also there"
"On dating sites, all men want only sex … They get sex and disappear … I don't like anyone … I haven't dated for a year now …"
What do these cases have in common?
You seem to be preparing for life, not living, but sitting out and waiting for something to change and then it will be possible. But this "will change" and "can" for some reason does not come.
This creates problems where they do not exist, so you can fall into the trap called "waiting for life."
And it turns out that you live in the illusion of the infinity of life. But the reality is that life is finite. And if you don't do what you want now, then when? There may not be tomorrow.
There is also another trap from the same series. When there was already some experience, and perhaps not everything went smoothly and the person expects the same ideal option as at the beginning. But now there is what is now. And the truth is that you definitely can't get something back, and somewhere there are limitations. The way out is to start from what is and do what you want, and not wait for manna from heaven.
Recommendations
Right now, without delaying until tomorrow, do what you want. Are you afraid? Fear and do! Otherwise, life goes on in dreams, daydreams, envy and depression. And as if you are looking at your life from the outside - how it goes by imperceptibly "But you could have taken the risk!;)"
You can read more about psychotherapy of fears here How to deal with fears - methods of a gestalt therapist
Friends, I myself am a coward, so I confessed. And now I also help myself. I thank the Universe and you for this opportunity!
Having the experience of living in difficult dead ends, and coming to the surface of life, I can support and explore your stops, stops, hitch, expectations, and help you find your solutions to how to live a fuller and more fulfilling life.
I wish us, overcoming fears, go to our cherished dreams and do what we want!
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