2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In whatever area the problem is for working with a psychologist, the client will inevitably face the fact that he may be denied.
If a person is in a love triangle, and has already found the strength to declare his boundaries to a partner, he may face the fact that he will not be chosen, and he will be left alone with his decision. But there is time to burn out and live on.
If a person experiences separation from a parent, feels an acute lack of acceptance, receives injections, even on another continent, and already straightening his attitude towards them through therapy, he will have to come to terms with the fact that the parent will not change. Mom is such a person, and you have enough time ahead to feel bad and live on.
Asking for a promotion at work or applying for a new position will have to be rejected over and over again.
Achieving certain success in their own processes from codependency to intimacy, a person learns to speak directly about his needs. He can and should uphold someone else's right to "No".
Being mentally healthy is about being aware of yourself and your needs and accepting the needs and limitations of others. Giving yourself a chance to be who you are, you can admit and come to terms with the fact that the will of another can run parallel to yours, and you can never do anything about it. It can be unbearable to be aware of clients in therapy, it causes incredibly painful sensations. But if we are aware of our desires, at the same time we must recognize the right of the other not to justify them.
And entering the territory of realizing that someone is incapable of meeting our expectations is just as painful as it is simultaneously liberating. Because honest, from the heart, possession of this algorithm for admitting various outcomes, giving freedom to the people around and the situations that occur, significantly reduces the chances of being grief-stricken with a "skin" - an image, your own illusion in the hands of an escaped partner. The more often and more persistently we wait, placing our needs in something or someone, avoiding rejection, the more painful we ourselves have.
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