2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Abandoned women psychologically torture themselves with questions like: "What is wrong with me? What did I do wrong, since I was abandoned?" So what kind of women are not abandoned?
Women are not abandoned as manipulators - and not just any, but skillful ones. A woman, who knows how to skillfully manipulate, chooses her victim correctly and skillfully adjusts the length of the man's leash. Going from one extreme to another (from excessive weakness to severe pressure), she creates constant emotional stress for a man, which does not leave him the possibility of realizing the current situation and looking for a way out.
Independent, headstrong women are not at risk of being abandoned either. The difference between these specimens from the manipulators described above is that the latter require the fulfillment of any whim, and men are held responsible for what is happening. This category does not include women who build their own lives and achieve their own goals - for example, business women.
It is usually very difficult for such women to keep a man close to them, as they often have "masculine strength", as they are accustomed to independence, solving difficult problems and leadership. In this case, we are talking about women who direct their independence to find a fan exclusively in order to use it and throw it away when it becomes no longer needed.
The third type of women are women who do not use men, do not control or manipulate them. Such a woman works hard on herself and lives a full life, not trying to change her partner or demand anything from him.
She will not be abandoned precisely because she knows: to be afraid of being abandoned means to be such. She does not seek to make a man her property and does not make him feel that he owes her something. Such a woman knows that she can only control herself, and that thoughts about which men are theirs … do not bring happiness.
Let me summarize. While the majority of abandoned women psychologically torture themselves with questions like: "What is wrong with me? What did I do wrong since I was abandoned?" Of course, this is a plus - no unnecessary stress, however, constructiveness in this approach is 0!
It is the third category of women who are able to combine both approaches: they will ask themselves the necessary questions that will help to understand themselves and the situation without feeling guilty, and will get maximum benefit even from a seemingly negative and stressful situation.
It is this category of women that is the rarest, but, I believe, it is not for long. Our society has already clearly demonstrated that the extremes into which the beautiful half of humanity fell - infantile weakness or life on a par with men, have long outlived their usefulness.
Modern life, changes in morals and traditions require women to be able to easily adapt to new things, flexibility of thinking and firmness of character at the same time. And wise women strive precisely to combine all these qualities in themselves and their development.
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