What Wives Do Husbands Leave?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

All wives left behind by their husbands have two things in common.

A similar question occurs quite often. The women who ask him, as a rule, expect to receive in return a description of a certain portrait of a wife abandoned by her husband. Does such a stereotypical portrait really exist? And, if so, what does it look like?

Husbands leave all kinds of wives. From full and from slender, from kind and from bitchy, from smart and from stupid … It is impossible in principle to describe a single image of an abandoned wife in such categories. However, in my opinion, all wives left behind by their husbands have two things in common.

When a man gets married, he has his own certain image of marital relations, the embodiment of which he would like in his family. He has his own list of needs that he expects to be met in marriage. Some of his needs are very significant for him, others are at the level of the desired. Every man has his own system of values, moral and ethical standards, his own character, system of perception, habitual ways of reacting, etc.

Of course, a man and a woman getting married begin to get to know each other much deeper. During the period of premarital relations, each of them has no opportunity to evaluate each other, and even themselves, in the role of husband and wife. Because these roles have not yet been accepted by them.

The motives for marriage can be very diverse, from extremely emotional to extremely rational. Whatever the motives, by getting married, a man is faced with the reality of his marital relationship.

The reality of marital relations, which a man faces immediately after marriage or later, may not satisfy him in a variety of ways. The relationship developing with his wife may contradict a man's ideas about the family, his expectations may not come true, significant needs may not be satisfied, etc.

Most often, a man, one way or another, signals to his wife what specifically does not suit him in their relationship. Such “signals” do not always appear in the form of reproaches, claims, demands, etc. The husband can give his wife non-verbal signals, such as the desire to spend more time outside the family, immersion in drunkenness, computer games, cooling off in the sexual sphere of marital relations, deliberately causing inconvenience to the wife, etc.

Usually, when the wife ignores the husband's claims or does not read his non-verbal signals and does not change her behavior, men begin to demonstrate tendencies of general negative behavior towards the wife. The husband becomes overly demanding, picky, irritable because of any little thing. This behavior of the husband indicates that his patience is already approaching the limit.

In the overwhelming majority of cases, wives react to this behavior of their husbands from the position of reciprocal verbal aggression or ignorance, i.e. do not seek to find the cause of such an attitude and eliminate it. As a result, marital dissatisfaction is on the rise.

At the same time, against the background of sufficient satisfaction with family relationships, the wife's act, which is regarded by the husband as a betrayal, for example, treason, abortion, lies, etc., can push a man to divorce.

In both cases, marriage, as a union with a particular woman, ceases to be of value for a man.

However, in order for a man to break off family relations, the loss of the value of marriage alone is not enough. Some married couples live together for years, although in fact their marriage exists only on paper.

In order for a marriage to cease to exist, a man must make an appropriate decision for himself and take the initiative. This decision is based on two key aspects. First, a man should be free of constraints. Such factors can be: the idea of divorce as something unacceptable, the fear of loneliness, the hope of settling disagreements with the spouse, the desire to preserve the marriage for the sake of children, etc.

Secondly, there are motives, for example, the presence of a new relationship, the perception of a marriage as hopelessly destroyed, a feeling of acute dislike for his wife, a desire to get out of a relationship that is toxic to oneself, etc.

Summarizing what has been said, we can single out two aspects that objectively unite the vast majority of wives from whom their husbands left:

- wives for whose husbands marriage with them has ceased to be of value, - wives who did not give an objective, adequate assessment of the husband's ability to make a decision to leave the family.

I sincerely wish everyone a happy family life, love, mutual understanding, sensitivity to each other's needs and interests.

Let divorce stories not be stories of your life!

If your family has difficulties in relationships and there is a desire to save the marriage, I will be glad to help, please contact.