2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What women want in sex. There used to be a well-established cliché that only husbands want, that women do not want anything in sex, have no claim to intimacy, quietly fulfill their marital duty. However, modern reality has long put an end to this delusion: the wives of the 21st century openly say that they can and want women in sex no less, if not more, than their men. This topic itself was actualized by the fact that over the past fifty years society has moved away from the scheme where the husband and wife were approximately the same age. Good or bad, but there is a fact: such marriages are becoming less and less. More and more wives are either much younger or much older than their husbands. Accordingly, noticeably younger wives often complain about the low sexual activity of their adult husbands 40-50+, and older ones - about the low level of sexual culture of young men. Sex is inviting a loved one to a holiday where you are the main dish! But being married, men (HUSBANDS) cease to give the opportunity to feel like the main dish, not being interested in the question of what his woman (Wife) wants in sex, thereby pushing my women to cool down for family sex and, subsequently, for infidelity.
Working as a psychologist since 1991, over three decades, I clearly observe a tendency towards a gradual increase in female demands for intimacy with her husband. I will say more: the systematic neglect of the wife's intimate needs on the part of her husband, not wanting to hear what his woman wants for sex is one of the reasons for the increase in female infidelity. That is why, I always urge men to be more attentive to the requests of their wives; be aware of the fact that over the years of marriage a woman can evolve, her sexual "handwriting" can change, often quite significantly. It has been established that women want sex just as much as men. The question is what kind of sex women want. However, in order not to be unfounded, I offer you a list of those twenty female claims to intimacy with their husbands, which are especially often heard at the reception of a family psychologist during family counseling:
20 Intimate Claims to Her Husband in Modern Women, or What Women Want in Sex:
1. Women want in sex, so that the husband is not very selfish in sex: having received satisfaction and being discharged, he stops intimate contact, not even asking his wife if everything that happened is enough for her female needs, without making any attempts to bring her to orgasm.
2. Women want in sex that the husband does not ignore or openly reject the initiative of his wife to have sex, pushing for his position that intimate games can begin in the family only at his request, and nothing else. Thus, putting his wife in the offensive position of eternal sex-Waiting for pride.
3. Women want in sex that the husband does not use a very limited number of techniques and techniques in the family bed, and at the same time stubbornly does not agree to introduce some kind of intimate variety at the initiative of the wife: the right to some innovations in intimacy (in poses, using toys, visiting a sex shop, watching videos, etc.) he reserves only to himself.
4. Women want in sex, so that the husband in sex would like to know that the wife can have a clitoral orgasm, offered to satisfy the wife with his hands or underestimates this technology, ridicules her attempts to teach him these techniques of intimacy.
5. Women want in sex that the husband does not shy away from oral stimulation of his wife (cunnilingus), or does not directly refuse this element of intimacy, considering it unacceptable.
6. Women want in sex that the husband does not put forward harsh ultimatums to his wife: either sex will be as he needs (in oral or anal form, etc.) or it will not be at all.
7. Women want in sex that the husband should pay due attention to the foreplay of his wife, in general showed tenderness and play, was not rude and primitive.
8. Women want in sex, so that the husband is not overly insistent in the field of intimacy, demanding sex daily, or several times a day, without considering the wife's own needs.
9. Women want in sex, so that the husband is not extremely passive in intimacy, for weeks without showing any sexual interest in a spouse who does not mind at all.
10. Women want in sex that the husband praised the obvious intimate efforts of his wife, thanked her for her creativity and activity in bed. But if he criticizes, then it is very painful and harsh.
11. Women in sex want their husbands to observe basic hygiene measures, take a shower before or after sex, etc.
12. Women want in sex that the husband strives to get sexual satisfaction from his wife literally at any cost, not considering that there may be children, parents, strangers, etc. nearby.
13. Women want in sex, so that the husband does not use sex as an instrument of punishment for an obstinate wife: in the event of any quarrel, a long "sexual strike" begins on his part.
14. Women want sex in order for the husband to invest financially in increasing the sexual attractiveness of his wife: he allocated funds for her beautiful underwear, stockings, various hygiene, cosmetic and plastic procedures.
15. Women want in sex so that, knowing exactly the special intimate needs of the wife, or even having formed them himself (role-playing games, seduction, bondage, bdsm, emphasis on oral or anal sex, etc.), the husband does not frankly ignore, thereby provoking a spouse to commit adultery.
16. Women want in sex so that the husband cannot rigidly impose on his wife sex with people outside the family (swingers, third male and female partners, observers, etc.), otherwise threatening to betray or even divorce.
17. Women want in sex that the husband is not extremely shy and shy, generally not considering any other types of sex and positions, except for the classic ones.
18. Women want in sex that the husband does not regularly humiliate his wife with her past intimate relationships, enthusiastically asks about them in details, and then becomes jealous and scandalous. Then he wonders why his wife doesn't want him …
19. Women want sex so that the husband does not humiliate his wife with stories of his own sexual exploits in the past, forcing to listen to all this. Then he does not understand the reasons for his wife's coldness …
20. In sex, women want the husband to show sexual tact toward his wife during periods that are intimately difficult for her: during the period of cyclical pain, during pregnancy or lactation.
As you can see from this list, men can make quite a few gross and light mistakes in the family bed, which can lead to serious problems in marriage, infidelity and divorce. But, I declare with full responsibility: fortunately, all of them can definitely be corrected if a man is not selfish and abandons dangerous male clichés and stereotypes in time. First of all, from the most important thing: that a wife does not have her own intimate nuances and needs, cannot develop in this direction, is only called upon to serve her husband. As soon as a man consciously takes the position of fundamental equality of man / woman, he begins to take an interest in his wife, in order to give her pleasure in family sex, he will try for her, everything in this family will work out! What I sincerely wish all families!
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