2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
🤗 Here it is what # tenderness
- It can be so oppressive, you want to hug everyone, when in fact it is lousy, lonely inside, there is a great need for love, on the contrary, you want to be hugged. Such a disguised need for another person.
- Suffocating tenderness, through hyper-care.
- Sometimes it is very cloying, cute, some kind of artificial, to the point of banging. Then you do not see a person, only an image, a beautiful picture. In other words, a merger or a dependency.
- There is tenderness, subtle, in details, words, and this is felt inside in different shades: warmth, calmness, joy, solicitude for another.
- There is a silent tenderness when you want to touch, stroke, run your hand over the body, hug. Anxious experience.
- Tenderness for your girlfriend.
- Tenderness for children.
- A separate topic is the tenderness of a man to a man. Not equal to homosexuality. These are handshakes, hugs, claps, banter, all indirect ways to show that a particular man is important, dear.
Seriously, in Russia it is somehow not particularly customary to talk about tenderness
This feeling is taboo in most families. Banned for both boys and girls.
And tenderness, then you want …
Tenderness often masks other feelings. The most common of these is anger. It is easy to use anger to cover up your neediness.
Often in a relationship, instead of gaining tenderness, a person begins to get angry with a partner, and out of his anger he does unpleasant things for the other. But in fact, you want a little warmth. But the prohibition on the experience of tenderness distorts the method of obtaining it, and, accordingly, the behavior.
It is even more tragic when I do something for someone else, in pursuit of positive goals, I want to do something pleasant. But for a person it looks different, your behavior may not deliberately hurt. Then you get the wrong reaction that you wanted (for example, to receive tenderness, warmth, attention). And at this point, you can become hardened.
Get bitter because you didn't get what you wanted.
Tenderness is associated with need, vulnerability.
Therefore, it is more difficult for men to show it. Since there are many role-playing stereotypes. If you get into them, then shame arises, in the spirit of: "I'm not a man or something", "nurse, slobber". And then, the man becomes "strong", takes on a role while inside is empty and lonely.
Disguise, hide, ignore, shove where far away, swallow, get angry - but you still want tenderness!
Tenderness in the same quality as trepidation, emotion, openness, solicitude, fullness, love
After a while and having experienced hardships in various relationships, I realized that very it is important to take care of each other … At least, in being careful in their actions and reactions, in how to choose words and speak. There are many difficulties and hardships in life. It's good when you are not alone and you can share your experiences with another, and not be rejected.
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